I agree with others that the first time or two can be stumbles/fumbles until you really get to know each other's bodies, etc.

However, unlike the PP, I have found that kissing is a great indicator right off the bat and that if the kissing is off, then the sex isn't likely to be better, nor have I had any luck with someone taking direction.

Worst sex partners have been people who were bad kissers...or at least, weren't my style of kisser.

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Anonymous wrote:I would chalk it up perhaps to nerves, however he could just be inexperienced or just a bad lover.

If the sex is still awful after the next 2-3 times, then I would move on.

Sex is a very important part of any romantic relationship + if you compromise in this area, you will only be selling yourself short in the long run.

I think if he's a quality guy you like then you should at least show him what you like and give it all you've got.

+1 years ago I had a boyfriend who was really great, lots if chemistry...but his kisses were wet and it really turned me off. I showed him the way I like to be kissed, and things improved a great deal.

Anonymous wrote:I would chalk it up perhaps to nerves, however he could just be inexperienced or just a bad lover.

If the sex is still awful after the next 2-3 times, then I would move on.

Sex is a very important part of any romantic relationship + if you compromise in this area, you will only be selling yourself short in the long run.

I think if he's a quality guy you like then you should at least show him what you like and give it all you've got.

Was like this with my husband. However, we had chemistry and still do. I've always enjoyed kissing him. Sex - he's not so great. Still isn't and something I have to live with.

Anonymous wrote:Why is it always the man's fault?

It could just be an issue of incompatibility. It didn't have to be someone's fault.

I would chalk it up perhaps to nerves, however he could just be inexperienced or just a bad lover.

If the sex is still awful after the next 2-3 times, then I would move on.

Sex is a very important part of any romantic relationship + if you compromise in this area, you will only be selling yourself short in the long run.

Why is it always the man's fault?

Define bad?

Is he a good kisser and is there chemistry? For me, those two things are very important. The rest can be worked on....or at least given a second chance.

I think what kind of bad can indicate whether someone is trying to learn vs just bad, but this is not the forum for specifics.

Can't tell from one time. It takes time to get to know each other's bodies.

Met a woman on line years ago. Sexually charged. First time we had sex, it was a huge let down. "This is it?" A few times later and she finally opened up...spent almost 24 continuous hours in bed; best sex ever. Best. I'd give you some snippets, but we're in the non-explicit forum.

Give it a few more tries.

I've found that the first time with someone new generally isn't great for me (female)...give it another go if he seems like a quality person. GL

OP: Pick your knuckles up off the ground and try again.

You should have spoken up.

My DH was good but not great until I spoke to him and guided him to my clit.

Met someone on line who I like a lot. Seen him several times and have talked aloft by phone as I was out of town for a family emergency for two weeks. Ended up sleeping with him last night. It was not great. I have not had that many partners but he was definitely the worst. Not sure what to make of it.

Anyone have this experience? I suspect he thought it was good.