Brother in law has been married 5 times. Thankfully, after number 3 he stopped having large weddings. The last one -- he was married a couple of years before the family was even notified. I'm guessing he just didn't want to explain it.

On the plus side, wife # 5 seems to have staying power. Going on 5 years now!

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Anonymous wrote:This is mean, but does she have a punchcard for guests. After a certain number you get a free coffee or something.

Seriously, though, I like what 22:49 said. But I can see your point. Focus on enjoying her happiness and having as much fun at the wedding as you can.

OMG you are funny. I am the only one of my siblings on my first marriage and have one getting ready for a fourth. I just can't figure out who in their right mind would marry someone with that many previous divorces. I was the only one in the family to go to the third one and not sure if I'll bother with number four. But if I do, I think I want some sort if frequent flyer prize.

OP here. 4th wedding?!! You have me beat. You may not know, but I'm dying to ask: Was there a pre-nump for any of the marriages? (I totally think both my sister and her fiance would benefit from a pre-nump given the circumstances, but, of course, it's not my place to offer advice.)

I had a hard time getting excited for my sibling's first (and only) wedding.

Two weeks before she got remarried, my sister called to tell me she would be having a wedding the day before my 5th anniversary. Months earlier, DH and I had planned our very first trip together for our first milestone anniversary -- a belated honeymoon to Paris. We got married in grad school and moved into our first house immediately after the wedding so we never had a honeymoon. We barely had any notice and we had been looking forward to the trip for years so we decided to go on our honeymoon and skip the wedding. I did worry people would think me selfish.

Anonymous wrote:This is mean, but does she have a punchcard for guests. After a certain number you get a free coffee or something.

Seriously, though, I like what 22:49 said. But I can see your point. Focus on enjoying her happiness and having as much fun at the wedding as you can.

OMG you are funny. I am the only one of my siblings on my first marriage and have one getting ready for a fourth. I just can't figure out who in their right mind would marry someone with that many previous divorces. I was the only one in the family to go to the third one and not sure if I'll bother with number four. But if I do, I think I want some sort if frequent flyer prize.

You don't have to be excited. You have to be a good guest with good manners.

You don't have to be excited. Be happy for her and forge through it. I hope, as above, it's not a big blowout and it's blissfully short.

It's probably a quite, small wedding as the third, right? So just go, smile, say congrats, and catch up with your family. No need to get a big gift or buy a new dress.

Were you in either of her previous weddings? Perfect opportunity to wear the bridesmaid dress again!

Encourage her to have an open bar!

This is mean, but does she have a punchcard for guests. After a certain number you get a free coffee or something.

Seriously, though, I like what 22:49 said. But I can see your point. Focus on enjoying her happiness and having as much fun at the wedding as you can.

Come up with your own drinking game for the reception.

I wouldn't be enthusiastic either, unless there had been extenuating circumstances.

However, time and maturity are supposed to help us know ourselves better and choose our mates for staying power.
Plus you have no control over this.

So... smile and congratulate her.

that is all. Anybody been there? Third time is the charm?