Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Erin's mom, listen. All your problems with Erin have the same root. Your kid is spoiled. Fix that and she'll deal with her own jacket and the rain, she'll roll with the disappointment of not getting a doll,etc.
Stop spoiling Erin. Encourage her to do things for herself.
I don't think so.
OP, look at The Kazdin Method book.
Truly though
I think your kid needs to see a developmental pediatrician for an evaluation.
I don't think this is necessary. Some kids just have a harder time dealing with disappointments or when things don't go their way. I think it's a personality issue, rather than developmental, although, you can't rule out anything.
My 9 yr old will occasional stomp his feet, cross his arms across his chest, and shake his head vehemently, and firmly say "no" when asked to do something he doesn't want to do. He can be extremely stubborn at times.
When my DS gets whiny and throws a tantrum like this, I say to him, "Do you think you will get your way if you act this way... do you think I will give in... (because I really never do)..? If you continue to act like a toddler I will treat you like one.. like going to bed a lot earlier, less independence, no electronics, etc.. You are 9 yrs old. You don't act this way at 9. Keep at it and you will get something taken away (like electronics)." That usually calms him down so that I can have a more rational and calm conversation with him about the situation. This is how I know it's not a developmental issue, like he can't help it, but rather a personality issue. Time and this method have made these incidents less frequent.
Good luck OP. Some kids are just harder to deal with.