Ugh, I feel you. It is harassment. You can minimize it by getting a table versus sitting at the bar. My favorite is when men get rebuffed and then say, "what, are you gay? or just a bitch?" And I'm not talking about rebuffing them rudely, even just saying, "Thanks, but we're just catching up with one another" enables some jerks to go off on you.

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Anonymous wrote:I feel sorry for her. I am pretty but not as pretty as your friend sounds like and I get grosses out when men obviously check me out. Especially if I'm with my kids. It just pisses me off, like I'm not here so you can leer. It must be horrible to deal with that x 10 everywhere she goes.

OP here. She definitely got uncomfortable with the constant comments. It was absurd, one guy told her that he eyes "sparkle" and he carried on and on. She was like 'OK, I GET IT!". She remains graceful, which is the huge draw. She is never rude and seems to make guys feel good about themselves without stepping over the line, which makes her really classy and drives the guys even more crazy. She's like some sort of fucking snake charmer.

I'm sure it goes get annoying for her, especially the guys who just won't go away. He boyfriend must be really confident in himself, because the attention she gets would intimidate any man. I've been out to a bar with the two of them and guys sure do look, but don't approach, but this is the first time he was not there and it was like she was some sort of vortex that was drawing them in.

I don't feel sorry for her, beauty and charm has it's perks.

She sound like a flirt and you sound like a groupie.

And there you have it. Hot woman who gets attention must be a flirt and guy who is friends with her must be a groupie. It is possible for a guy to just be friends with a pretty woman. I know it's hard for many to believe, but it's true.

OP, here, I am indeed a woman. Not sure if I'm a groupie, it is an odd statement that really was not worthy of comment.

I'm sure my friend enjoys the attention (who doesn't?). However, she certainly does not seek it out....when you look like her and are kind on top of that is comes to her. Other than the pitfalls of being Skipper, I did find it very interesting to see how women like her are treated in a bar scene. Again, though I've known her for a long time, we normally don't do bars and when we have it has been a group, including her boyfriend. She's not a big bar person and I can see why now!

That was me in my youth - at bars, clubs, parties, just walking down the street would illicit wolf whistling or men stopping me on the streets or pulling their cars over to ralk to me. (I grew up in the UK so people aere much more forward). I had declarations of love even from my long-term boyfriend's friends and when I was at university a guy I was friendly with actually dropped out of college because he thought he was so in love with me that he could not face seeing me every day if he couldn't have me. He was crying like a baby - I was stunned and just stared at him. Never saw him again after that.
I found it all quite stressful. I once had two guys tugging me in opposite directions (they were drunk). I was never rude and I agree that that makes guys think you are up for it. I've also been approached by women a few times.

Even here in the US men still look and pull over and comment (and I am left confused - I am 49!!!) but it's usually european men.

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Anonymous wrote:I feel sorry for her. I am pretty but not as pretty as your friend sounds like and I get grosses out when men obviously check me out. Especially if I'm with my kids. It just pisses me off, like I'm not here so you can leer. It must be horrible to deal with that x 10 everywhere she goes.

OP here. She definitely got uncomfortable with the constant comments. It was absurd, one guy told her that he eyes "sparkle" and he carried on and on. She was like 'OK, I GET IT!". She remains graceful, which is the huge draw. She is never rude and seems to make guys feel good about themselves without stepping over the line, which makes her really classy and drives the guys even more crazy. She's like some sort of fucking snake charmer.

I'm sure it goes get annoying for her, especially the guys who just won't go away. He boyfriend must be really confident in himself, because the attention she gets would intimidate any man. I've been out to a bar with the two of them and guys sure do look, but don't approach, but this is the first time he was not there and it was like she was some sort of vortex that was drawing them in.

I don't feel sorry for her, beauty and charm has it's perks.

She sound like a flirt and you sound like a groupie.

And there you have it. Hot woman who gets attention must be a flirt and guy who is friends with her must be a groupie. It is possible for a guy to just be friends with a pretty woman. I know it's hard for many to believe, but it's true.

OP's a guy?

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Anonymous wrote:I feel sorry for her. I am pretty but not as pretty as your friend sounds like and I get grosses out when men obviously check me out. Especially if I'm with my kids. It just pisses me off, like I'm not here so you can leer. It must be horrible to deal with that x 10 everywhere she goes.

OP here. She definitely got uncomfortable with the constant comments. It was absurd, one guy told her that he eyes "sparkle" and he carried on and on. She was like 'OK, I GET IT!". She remains graceful, which is the huge draw. She is never rude and seems to make guys feel good about themselves without stepping over the line, which makes her really classy and drives the guys even more crazy. She's like some sort of fucking snake charmer.

I'm sure it goes get annoying for her, especially the guys who just won't go away. He boyfriend must be really confident in himself, because the attention she gets would intimidate any man. I've been out to a bar with the two of them and guys sure do look, but don't approach, but this is the first time he was not there and it was like she was some sort of vortex that was drawing them in.

I don't feel sorry for her, beauty and charm has it's perks.

She sound like a flirt and you sound like a groupie.

And there you have it. Hot woman who gets attention must be a flirt and guy who is friends with her must be a groupie. It is possible for a guy to just be friends with a pretty woman. I know it's hard for many to believe, but it's true.

I've had two friends like that. Both remained down to earth and ended up with great NICE guys. I think somewhere early on they just learned to brush it all off.

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Anonymous wrote:I feel sorry for her. I am pretty but not as pretty as your friend sounds like and I get grosses out when men obviously check me out. Especially if I'm with my kids. It just pisses me off, like I'm not here so you can leer. It must be horrible to deal with that x 10 everywhere she goes.

OP here. She definitely got uncomfortable with the constant comments. It was absurd, one guy told her that he eyes "sparkle" and he carried on and on. She was like 'OK, I GET IT!". She remains graceful, which is the huge draw. She is never rude and seems to make guys feel good about themselves without stepping over the line, which makes her really classy and drives the guys even more crazy. She's like some sort of fucking snake charmer.

I'm sure it goes get annoying for her, especially the guys who just won't go away. He boyfriend must be really confident in himself, because the attention she gets would intimidate any man. I've been out to a bar with the two of them and guys sure do look, but don't approach, but this is the first time he was not there and it was like she was some sort of vortex that was drawing them in.

I don't feel sorry for her, beauty and charm has it's perks.

She sound like a flirt and you sound like a groupie.

Anonymous wrote:Hey OP. All eyes on you after midnight!!!

I'm not looking to hook up. I have a FWB for that when times get tough. Every single person needs a safe and comfortable FWB for the occasional booty call.

OP, don't be fooled. She loves the attention. If she's in a relationship and going to a bar, then she knows what she's getting into. She's just a master at hiding her enjoyment.

Anonymous wrote:I feel sorry for her. I am pretty but not as pretty as your friend sounds like and I get grosses out when men obviously check me out. Especially if I'm with my kids. It just pisses me off, like I'm not here so you can leer. It must be horrible to deal with that x 10 everywhere she goes.

OP here. She definitely got uncomfortable with the constant comments. It was absurd, one guy told her that he eyes "sparkle" and he carried on and on. She was like 'OK, I GET IT!". She remains graceful, which is the huge draw. She is never rude and seems to make guys feel good about themselves without stepping over the line, which makes her really classy and drives the guys even more crazy. She's like some sort of fucking snake charmer.

I'm sure it goes get annoying for her, especially the guys who just won't go away. He boyfriend must be really confident in himself, because the attention she gets would intimidate any man. I've been out to a bar with the two of them and guys sure do look, but don't approach, but this is the first time he was not there and it was like she was some sort of vortex that was drawing them in.

I don't feel sorry for her, beauty and charm has it's perks.

Hey OP. All eyes on you after midnight!!!

Anonymous wrote:I feel sorry for her. I am pretty but not as pretty as your friend sounds like and I get grosses out when men obviously check me out. Especially if I'm with my kids. It just pisses me off, like I'm not here so you can leer. It must be horrible to deal with that x 10 everywhere she goes.

Don't say your not as pretty. Guys are checking you out, so you must be doing something right!

So just for my files, are you okay with eye contact and a quick smile or are you all business when you are out with the kids?

I feel sorry for her. I am pretty but not as pretty as your friend sounds like and I get grosses out when men obviously check me out. Especially if I'm with my kids. It just pisses me off, like I'm not here so you can leer. It must be horrible to deal with that x 10 everywhere she goes.

The next time you go to a bar/restaurant and have a cute waitress or bartender watch all the crap they deal with. Sexist comments, sexual jokes and innuendo. And they usually smile and take it in hopes of getting the tip. It's sad the entitlement and lack of respect so many men show toward women.

There's nothing I like better than really having a conversation with a woman I've just happened to run into at a bar, in a store or whatever. Unfortunately the assholes seem to be ruining it for all of us.

I have a friend who is very attractive. She's tall, thin (not skinny), big boobs, and gorgeous face-plus she has an outgoing, confident, and charming personality. All eyes are on her wherever she is.

We went out for drinks last night and she turned the place upsidown. I've never been out with her to a bar, this was the first time and the riot she caused was a spectacle. Guys were falling over themselves to be near her and making fools out of themselves constantly telling her how hot she is. It was interesting to see this experience through her eyes and I'm shocked she can keep her feet solidly planted on the ground. It does not go to her head, just a fact of her life.

She's in a long term relationship and I'm single, so it kind of sucked being skipper next to Barbie. Every time I got to talking to someone, they would try to get to her....and she did not even care to have the attention.