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Anonymous wrote:Being adopted means your mother was unmarried when you were born. If the parents dispise single parents and illegitimate children, then how do you think anyone will feel

What in the sam hill are you talking about?

The PP means that many adopted children may have been born to young single moms. If they are adopted by conservatives who rail about "loose women" or single mothers being a scourge on society, they may end up feeling that their adopted family regards them as tainted in some ways. They may then reject their adopted family and its values.

I was adopted. My dad is very conservative and my mom very liberal. I'm very liberal now but ended up marrying someone conservative and keeping the family dynamics.

Anonymous wrote:Being adopted means your mother was unmarried when you were born. If the parents dispise single parents and illegitimate children, then how do you think anyone will feel

What in the sam hill are you talking about?

Anonymous wrote:Being adopted means your mother was unmarried when you were born. If the parents dispise single parents and illegitimate children, then how do you think anyone will feel

What?

Being adopted means your mother was unmarried when you were born. If the parents dispise single parents and illegitimate children, then how do you think anyone will feel

Adoptee here. My bio mom is a sixties hippy and bio dad is a good ole boy type. Both my adopted parents are neocons. My political compass would be Eisenhower republican. I don't have any great enthusiasm for either party as they are today and I voted 3rd party in the 2012 elections.

One kind of interesting thing is that I used to wonder why DD was so unlike DW and I in temperament and personality. When I reunited with my firstmother, it became apparent where it came from - DD is practically a younger clone of her grandmother.

My family is all over the board politically as is my spouses' family. I think it comes family. I think it comes down to whether you think for yourself or succumb to the political indoctrination of your youth.

13:41 again -- also, my husband and I are relatively nonconformist We were both geeky adolescents, for example. Our daughter has always been much more interested in fitting in.

I remember when she was only 3, she had a school project, and I thought of a couple ways to do it -- one way would be like everyone else's, and the other way would be different (and, to me, more interesting). I presented them to my daughter -- "this way would be cool and different; this way would be more like the way everyone else is doing it" -- and she emphatically, with no hesitation, went for the way everyone else was doing it. That was a lightbulb moment for me.

I suppose I'm the black sheep of my family, and I'm not adopted. (I look too much like both parents.)

I'm the only one in my family to move out of the midwest. I'm the least religious one (agnostic, not atheist) and I'm the only Democrat. I'm the only sibling with a grad degree. (my dad has one, too.) I'm the only one who has never married. My family teases me about being an East Coast Liberal Snob. Which isn't true; i'm not really all that liberal.

I wasn't adopted, but my parents and brother all are more conservative (politically), and I have become very liberal.

The weird thing is, I don't feel like my politics is a rebellion -- to me, my politics are a natural outgrowth of the values my parents raised me with, and it's harder for me to understand why they are conservative.

My daughter was adopted. She's only 6, so at this point it's hard to say how she fits philosophically. At this point, I do know that she's both more physical/athletic and more extroverted than my husband and I are. The athletic part is pretty easy -- we sign her up for sports programs and classes.

The introvert/extrovert thing is harder; my husband and I both need a certain amount of "alone time" -- not necessarily physically isolated, but time inside our own heads -- and she would rather not ever be alone if she could avoid it. Trying to figure out how to balance everyone's emotional needs is a challenge.

My son is adopted. By the time he finishes school, he'll be more educated than I am (medical degree vs two bachelors degrees). He votes democratic, as I do. I'm slightly more liberal than he is, which I think is a result of him never wanting to draw attention or make waves. He moved across the country, but I kind of pushed that - to get him to a school where he'd be comfortable academically but wouldn't have the same level of pressure as the schools on the East Coast.

This is not an adopted vs. non adopted issue.

It's an issue faced by children who grow up in their biological families.

I appreciate your post as the parent of three kids (2 bio and 1 adopted). I am always trying to detect whether the differences among my kids are motivated by nature vs nurture. Our kids have their differences, but I want them to express their differences in terms of sibling rivalry rather than "you don't belong in this family." That would hurt and I don't think that our adopted kid would ever forgive or forget. It hasn't happened and hope that it never does. So far the differences appear to me to be based more on "normal" sibling rivalry than anything else. But in this time where we have many different faces of family, we want to be extra careful so that each of our kids feels part of the family, regardless of whether they turn out to be Republicans or Democrats.

My parents are very liberal. My siblings and I are all bio children and are also all very liberal.

My DH's mom and step father are very conservative. His bio dad was also conservative, but mostly just an a-hole. My DH is very liberal and is thinks his conservative family is hypocritical because they profess religious beliefs of charity and compassion but don't actually walk the walk (in his opinion). He and his siblings are actually half-siblings although they are extremely close and consider themselves full siblings. His 7-year younger brother is extremely conservative (like his father/DH's step father). His 13 year younger sister is on the liberal side of moderate.

I think that the life circumstances of my DH and his sibs had more to do with their political philosophical beliefs than genetics, but maybe it was a combination.

I was just reading an article in Mother Jones about the possibility that there are actual neurological differences between liberals and conservatives-- in other words, that people's political bent may be nature, not nurture. Interesting stuff.

For me, it brought back to mind a question I've been personally curious about since childhood. I was adopted into a (wonderful) family as an infant. I was always an odd duck. My whole family is politically conservative-- I started voting liberal in second grade, during a mock presidential election. My family is very religious; I knew before puberty that I was agnostic.

My sibs (all bio kids) all live in the county where we grew up. I moved 3000 miles away. None of them completed a full year of college; I have a graduate degree. And so on, and so on.

I know that every family has its "black sheep," and its outliers, but I'm still curious to hear others' take on this. Thanks!