Anonymous wrote:Well maybe I should've clarified, I mean my mom has really helped us out when we had no money, she helped us get a new fridge once, sold us her truck really cheap, pretty much gave me her old Harley and even told us to concider done money we owed her once as a wedding gift. I kind of feel like my wife forgets those things and that we should deal with my moms crap every now and then because of what she's done for us if u know what I mean.

Gifts from parents don't come with strings attached, that's abusive behavior. Focus on the current issues, not the past. Do you want to be with your wife? If you do, stand up for her. Don't you think your mom was crazy reading your phone and taking your daughter without permission? If yes, tell her so.

And besides, I'm sure your wife has done A LOT more for you than give you an old truck and fridge over the course of your marriage. She matters too. Don't throw your marriage away.

I do not believe that this could possibly be a different op

Well maybe I should've clarified, I mean my mom has really helped us out when we had no money, she helped us get a new fridge once, sold us her truck really cheap, pretty much gave me her old Harley and even told us to concider done money we owed her once as a wedding gift. I kind of feel like my wife forgets those things and that we should deal with my moms crap every now and then because of what she's done for us if u know what I mean.

Anonymous wrote:Yes my wife posted but I wanted my side heard too

Your side? You are a complete sop, ruled by your mother and an awful husband. When your wife is long gone and your mother wants you to choose between her and your DD, what will you do? You truly suck.

12:26 again -- It sounds like you can't/don't want to stand up for yourself with your mom, so you rely on your wife to stick up for you. Then when your mom gets pissed about it, instead of backing your wife up, you let her take all the blame for fighting YOUR battles.

That's really lousy behavior on your part.

I gotta say, hearing your side of it, I don't understand why you're conflicted at all. Your wife sounds like she's been pretty reasonable in the face of your mom's unreasonable behavior. (She picked up your kid without letting either of you know? She took your phone and searched through it? I get why your wife mad -- I don't get why you aren't?)

You are siding with your junkie/drunk mom over your wife and the mother of your children? Seriously?

Your mom has behaved badly her entire life. She has bad boundaries then and now. She needs to learn some manners and how people act when they aren't useless junkies and drunks. You need to learn it, too.

Your wife is right. You are both wrong.

WOW you need some BALLS. You stick up for your wife. Honestly...no matter what.

But your mother is batshit crazy and you need to man up!

Seriously? Mom or wife? You better choose wife. Heck, even the bible says a man shall leave his mother and cleave to his wife.

YOU need to stick up for your wife. Wife is #1. When you got married you started a life and family with her and left your mommy behind. Grow up, act like an adult and put some boundaries between your mom and wife.

And even though it's their argument, YOU need to deal with this since it's your parents. Your wife should referee between her parents and you.

Yes my wife posted but I wanted my side heard too

Anonymous wrote:This was posted a week or two ago.

I think it was from the wife's perspective at that point.

Anonymous wrote:This was posted a week or two ago.

Yes it was.

This was posted a week or two ago.

My wife and mom don't get along AT ALL! They both say the other treats them horribly. This has been an ongoing issue from the beginning and still ongoing 14 years later. I feel completely in the middle. Most recently my mother came for a visit (she lives out of state but has bought another vacation home a mile from us). Prior to mom coming up, my wife said she refuses to be disrespected by mother any longer and intends to stick up for herself since I don't (but I hate being in the middle and feel the fight is between them NOT me). Anyhow, my mom went to our house and picked up our teen daughter without informing either me or my wife. My wife told our daughter and my mother that they both need to respect us and ask us prior to making plans. My mother flipped out saying she's not disrespectful and can pick up her grandchild whenever she pleases, my wife disagrees. The next day, while I was outside doing yard work, my mother went through my phone that I left in the house to charge (which had conversations between me and my wife on it about her) then took off with my phone and went to a family members house disclosing the private info on my phone. My wife came home to this and called my mom to ask for the phone back and explain how inappropriate her behavior was and it ended up in a heated argument between the two of them. And now mom says my wife is no longer aloud at her house or on her property and that I should leave my wife. Now, after telling my wife what mom said, my wife says mom is also not aloud at our house.
I see both sides, I guess. My wife has tried throughout the years to be nice to mom, cooking dinners, throwing parties for her, remembering holidays, mothers day etc. cause I don't do these things. My mom has helped us out in the past financially though and I don't want to piss my mom off either nor do I want to loose the relationship I now have with mom.
My wife knows my mom was never there when I was growing up (My mom is a recovering addict and I'm now 38) and I think my wife resents my mom for a lot I've gone through (i.e. drug/alcohol addiction, depression, etc.)On the other hand, I think my mom resents my wife for being that person in my life who is and was there for me and helped me to turn my life around. Actually, my mom and I didn't even have a real relationship and weren't even conversing until my wife came along and helped to repair our damaged son/ mom relationship.
Now, I'm afraid I may loose them both. What to do? Who side to choose?