The right thing to do in a situation like this theoretically of course if to keep your lips zipped, but honestly if I was in your shoes, I would just HAVE to tell someone + that someone would be the lady I knew that was a good friend of hers.

I know, I know...So high school and so gossipy, but I have to be honest here, it would be so hard to keep something like this inside!!

Hey...What do you expect? I am a woman!!

This is tough, if you tell the friend you have in common it will erupt no doubt. You need to know this but I have zero tolerance for any man or woman who could do that to their family and I secretly always hope this situations will let themselves be exposed and they get what they deserve!!

However "outing" them puts you in a really bad position so i vote for just saying nothing.

This happened with two colleagues of mine (both senior partners at our firm) at a distant, romantic inn in Virginia. Saw 'em finishing up dinner, holding hands, gazing into each others' eyes etc just as we were arriving. He is married with three kids, she is divorced. They didn't see me.

Ok, have an affair---but why do you feel the need to take risks by being together in public?

Another psychology student post.

I wouldn't tell, and I usually advocate telling the betrayed spouse.

Now, you could play with her a little. "Oh, I saw you out in x-burg over the summer. Do you spend much time there?" Make her a little paranoid, maybe. But I would probably not have the nerve.

Anonymous wrote:Cam you blackmail them?

LOL

There is nothing to do but MYOB.

MYOB - don't get sucked into their world

Cam you blackmail them?

Well every school is different and as with the kids groups parent groups run the gamut. Maybe its my daughters friends parents but they while being accomplished and successful are indeed a group of rather self indulgent self serving people, my H and i are much more down to earth than most but not all.

Hmmm. Not exactly crazy but yes a tough one. I'd be torn. I'd probably say nothing but would consider telling my friend.

It's kind of strange how you describe the parent community. I know parents from a cross section of the area's top schools (through a club sport) and have found all to be nice, even the high powered wealthy ones.

Leave it along- playing with fire. Even though they are both hurting a boatload of people. Too bad.

Right.

Forgot to add a point- one of the women I have become good friends with is very very good friends with this woman in question. Don't say anything right?

This is "sticky" and would love to hear some advice on what you would do.

my D attends a private school running a muck with plenty of elite, narcissistic full of themselves parents. I tend to stay in the backdrop,unlike most women I work so thankfully don't have a lot of time to spend with them though I have become friends with a few lovely women and my D has a bunch of wonderful girls (and boys) as friends.

My job took me out of town (about 2 hours) last week and I stopped en route back home off at a small little cafe. Shockingly I spotted someone I knew (a mom at school who I know vaguely her son is a year older than my D) She say with her back to me and did not see me. A few min later ANOTHER DAD from school walks in, and lets just say the way they greeted each other it was without a doubt obvious they were romantic. I was floored and at that point was able to make a quick exit. I was really shocked, haven't told anyone. I know not to say anything but OMG never have seen something like that or been in that situation and its so weird knowing what I know. CRAZY huh!