If his drinking is troubling you, this is not the relationship you ought to be in. Problem drinking isn't always about the amount of alcohol consumed. It can be about the context of the drinking.
One cause of tension in my marriage was that my (now ex) husband would always drink when we went out so I was always the DD. I wouldn't have minded so much except I was usually very tired and it made driving more stressful. He had a short commute via metro but I drove 45 min each day so going out became one more chore for me due to his drinking.
If you resent how much your new guy drinks or you think he has a problem, heed the red flag.

Anonymous wrote:You are right to be alert to this, OP. My spouse is an alcoholic, but I didn't realize it until we were married and I was pregnant with our first child. Always having a drink after work and when we were out, etc, but never acted different and was always very good to me. But there was more substance abuse going on than I was aware of. It's been a very hard road that I wouldn't wish on any one or do over again if I had the choice. Stay alert to this.

Me, too! I knew he liked his beer, but whoa it's gone way overboard over the years. Turns out his family are all drinkers, and basically functional alcoholics. We've stayed together, but the kids are old enough to see what is going on and recognize that dad drinks more than normal amounts. He denies it's a problem, and generally it is--he's not a bad person when he drinks, just way too talkative, and he functions--good earner, supportive, etc.

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Anonymous wrote:More than three glasses a week is a heavy drinker most likely alcoholic. Most normal people don't chronically drink every day or week.

My DH has a beer every night with dinner (sometimes two) and he is definitely not an alcoholic.
How many drinks does your guy have when you're together, OP?
Where have you been seeing each other? Bars? Restaurants?

What I mean to say is, we need a bit more context.

Agree. Two beers on a date dinner, or a bottle of whiskey in the afternoon?

Anonymous wrote:More than three glasses a week is a heavy drinker most likely alcoholic. Most normal people don't chronically drink every day or week.

Please.

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Anonymous wrote:More than three glasses a week is a heavy drinker most likely alcoholic. Most normal people don't chronically drink every day or week.

My DH has a beer every night with dinner (sometimes two) and he is definitely not an alcoholic.
How many drinks does your guy have when you're together, OP?
Where have you been seeing each other? Bars? Restaurants?

What I mean to say is, we need a bit more context.

Maybe OP is an alcoholic?

Anonymous wrote:More than three glasses a week is a heavy drinker most likely alcoholic. Most normal people don't chronically drink every day or week.

My DH has a beer every night with dinner (sometimes two) and he is definitely not an alcoholic.
How many drinks does your guy have when you're together, OP?
Where have you been seeing each other? Bars? Restaurants?

Anonymous wrote:More than three glasses a week is a heavy drinker most likely alcoholic. Most normal people don't chronically drink every day or week.

I guess all the population of Europe and 60 percent of the population of the US are alcoholics.

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Anonymous wrote:More than three glasses a week is a heavy drinker most likely alcoholic. Most normal people don't chronically drink every day or week.

Three glasses a WEEK!?! Lol

Oh so I guess I'm an alcoholic as are all of my family.

You are right to be alert to this, OP. My spouse is an alcoholic, but I didn't realize it until we were married and I was pregnant with our first child. Always having a drink after work and when we were out, etc, but never acted different and was always very good to me. But there was more substance abuse going on than I was aware of. It's been a very hard road that I wouldn't wish on any one or do over again if I had the choice. Stay alert to this.

Anonymous wrote:More than three glasses a week is a heavy drinker most likely alcoholic. Most normal people don't chronically drink every day or week.

Three glasses a WEEK!?! Lol

Anonymous wrote:More than three glasses a week is a heavy drinker most likely alcoholic. Most normal people don't chronically drink every day or week.

Lol

More than three glasses a week is a heavy drinker most likely alcoholic. Most normal people don't chronically drink every day or week.

How about spending time when drinking alcohol would be inappropriate such as going for a hike, visiting a museum, running errands at Home Depot, etc?

I met a great guy. We have never been together when he is not drinking alcohol, except once, and his behavior was exactly the same as when he is drinking. I enjoy a glass or two of wine and one or two cocktails. I a female and around 120 pounds. Two drinks are my limit, with food, or I am not okay to drive. However, new guy is over 6 feet tall and over 200 pounds, easily. He is not fat, just a really big guy. Can he just handle his liquor better than I think he can?