Of course you're curvy, you're quite overweight. Don't say things like that. It's unecessary--everyone who is extremely overweight has curves everywhere. Just own it, and don't focus on it. Ditto to the PPs who said the same thing about emphasizing your boobs--no kidding.

THat said, not everyone is against large women. Just try to be yourself, and have some confidence.

Anonymous wrote:Huh? I'm 5'7", 165, and I wear a size 14...

Are you sure you wear a size 14??

I'm with you... I am 6'0" tall and when I weighed 215, I was a 1x.

There will be men who are turned off by your weight, but if you have confidence and carry yourself well and keep your options open, you will meet someone who will appreciate you for you. That said, if you are uncomfortable enough with yourself to post this question on an anonymous message board, you aren't going to attract quality men. A quality man doesn't want someone who is self-conscious about herself. You need to work on yourself--not just your weight, but why you think that your weight makes you "unworthy" of a man. I say this as a current size 22. I was a size 14 when I got married.

Huh? I'm 5'7", 165, and I wear a size 14...

Are you sure you wear a size 14??

Anonymous wrote:I say this as an overweight person.

First of all, if you are 215 lbs at 5'8 you are not a size 14. I'm a 12 and weigh 180, same height.

Secondly - I can't stand when fat women say they have big boobs (again, I do too). Boobs are made of fat. You have big boobs because you are fat.

I don't think it would hurt to start dating - but you have to be realistic about your options. And don't post a pic where you are way skinnier than you are now.

Not always. I have "big boobs" when I am fat, skinny or inbeween. Currently I am an H cup size. Looking at reduction options.

There's a lid for every pot. Try meeting men through events that show case your personality and smarts over physical appearance. It also helps to show guys that you are healthy despite being healthy. I know many women who became brides at your size or bigger to really great men. These ladies all had confidence and were happy people.

No.

I wouldn't, but I'm a 5'11", 170lb man. I like a wide range of women, including many with some meat on their bones, but 215 is just too much for me.

That said: there are lots of guys in your BMI range (+/- your own BMI) who would definitely be interested in dating you. There are lots of guys of all sizes who like heavy women.

also, I'm with pp@15:18: the whole "I've got boobs" thing from overwieght people is annoying...of course you do, you'd have moobs if you were a man and that height/weight.

I'm a straight woman, but if I were a guy, I would not. It isn't your weight as much as what your weight says about your lifestyle.

Anonymous wrote:I'm very curvy (big boobs) but yeah. Those are my stats. Face is very pretty (natural blonde, green eyes) but I'm overweight. Should I bother starting with online dating or lose weight first? I'm 5'8.

Size 14? I am a size 20 5'8" and 220. Married for 20 years. Was 200lbs when we married.

You have a figure like my wife; which never bothered me. The problem was how she dealt with her body image. I always thought it made her very self conscious in the bedroom and as a result we never have/had much bedroom activity.

If she had owned her body and sexuality I would have quite enjoyed loving her and her curves. So, the challenge I would have is a reluctance thinking you are going to be uptight about your body. And then selfishly I lose because the sex sucks.

You should want to lose weight to be healthy, not to find a man.

I say this as an overweight person.

First of all, if you are 215 lbs at 5'8 you are not a size 14. I'm a 12 and weigh 180, same height.

Secondly - I can't stand when fat women say they have big boobs (again, I do too). Boobs are made of fat. You have big boobs because you are fat.

I don't think it would hurt to start dating - but you have to be realistic about your options. And don't post a pic where you are way skinnier than you are now.

Can you drop some pounds? 215 is pretty big.. like a anna nicole?

How tall are you?

I'm very curvy (big boobs) but yeah. Those are my stats. Face is very pretty (natural blonde, green eyes) but I'm overweight. Should I bother starting with online dating or lose weight first? I'm 5'8.