Anonymous
06/19/2014 21:54
Subject: Advice About Dysfunctional Family
This is scuzzy stuff. Create your new family without this ickiness.
Anonymous
06/19/2014 21:47
Subject: Advice About Dysfunctional Family
slap your mom
Anonymous
06/18/2014 22:48
Subject: Re:Advice About Dysfunctional Family
Forget that your mom will ever be a loving family for your child. Get therapy for yourself and maybe with your sister. Find friends to be "family".
Anonymous
06/18/2014 08:59
Subject: Advice About Dysfunctional Family
I suggest family counseling, at least with you and your sister, to see if you can't improve the dynamic. Frankly, I don't blame your sister for hating your mom--not only did your mom fail utterly to protect her from abuse, she abused her herself.
And honestly, if my mom hit someone who was holding a baby, my mom would not get to be around my baby unless they had taken anger management therapy. Period. I'd focus on working on your relationship with your sister. Unless your mom has a drastic change of heart, that relationship is beyond repair.
And honestly, if my mom hit someone who was holding a baby, my mom would not get to be around my baby unless they had taken anger management therapy. Period. I'd focus on working on your relationship with your sister. Unless your mom has a drastic change of heart, that relationship is beyond repair.
Anonymous
06/18/2014 05:08
Subject: Advice About Dysfunctional Family
No advice other than professional counseling for you (and your sister). It's a challenging situation that I think only a professional can truly handle.
(((((hugs))))
(((((hugs))))
Anonymous
06/18/2014 03:26
Subject: Advice About Dysfunctional Family
(FYI, this is a repost from another section. I realized it's more appropriate for this part of the site)
I'm expecting my first baby, and really want them to be born into a loving family. However, I am very worried about my relationship with my mother and younger sister. My sister lives 8 hours away and whenever she comes to visit she and my mother constantly get into heated arguments, and she calls me hysterical asking to pick her up. This got so bad that one day 2 years ago during an argument my mother slapped my sister while she was holding her newborn baby. My sister forgave her and now my mom acts like it never happened and they continue to always argue when they see each other. My mother has a history of severe verbal abuse against my sister and I growing up. My sister was also molested by a family member growing up and told my mom about it and she did nothing. My mom now denies my sister ever said anything, or that she was ever verbally abusive. My sister admitted to me that she hates my mother and carries around intense rage/anger. My sister is very emotionally unstable and calls me when she is feeling suicidal at times. I would like protect my child from this situation and don't know what to do. Please help. Is there anyway this family dynamic can be healed? Or do I just need to walk away?
I'm expecting my first baby, and really want them to be born into a loving family. However, I am very worried about my relationship with my mother and younger sister. My sister lives 8 hours away and whenever she comes to visit she and my mother constantly get into heated arguments, and she calls me hysterical asking to pick her up. This got so bad that one day 2 years ago during an argument my mother slapped my sister while she was holding her newborn baby. My sister forgave her and now my mom acts like it never happened and they continue to always argue when they see each other. My mother has a history of severe verbal abuse against my sister and I growing up. My sister was also molested by a family member growing up and told my mom about it and she did nothing. My mom now denies my sister ever said anything, or that she was ever verbally abusive. My sister admitted to me that she hates my mother and carries around intense rage/anger. My sister is very emotionally unstable and calls me when she is feeling suicidal at times. I would like protect my child from this situation and don't know what to do. Please help. Is there anyway this family dynamic can be healed? Or do I just need to walk away?