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Anonymous wrote:Try to avoid it, honestly. My son doesn't know his father, so it always has the potential to be a difficult day. Thankfully we are on vacation, which makes it much easier to miss.

Don't avoid it. That makes it worse. Acknowledge that he isn't around for your son's sake and let him have the opportunity to express his feelings about that to you.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Try to avoid it, honestly. My son doesn't know his father, so it always has the potential to be a difficult day. Thankfully we are on vacation, which makes it much easier to miss.

Just wanted to offer some encouragement. I don't know my father either, so some years on Father's day I gave my mom a second card, others I gave my grandmother (who lived with us) a card as she helped my mom out a lot, other years I gave a card to my favorite uncle- it sort of depended on whatever whim took me the day the teacher laid out the Father's Day craft . Most important is that I don't ever remember it being a difficult day, mostly because none of the adults in my life let it be.

This year I happen to be flying in for a visit home on Father's Day. I haven't seen my mom in almost a year (the longest we've ever gone without visiting) and so it seems extra special that I'll be seeing her again on Father's Day when she has always pulled double duty.

TL;DR I really appreciate how hard my mom worked raising me by herself, and I'm sure your son will too.

I never knew my father either so growing up we (mom and me) just kind of skipped it - like we skipped Hanukkah and Passover because we weren't Jewish - not all holidays are for everyone. And things are so different now - in our daughter's class there are four families of same gender parents - clearly they aren't going to celebrate either a Father's Day or a Mother's Day in their homes either.

And to PP - I could not appreciate my mother more for how hard she worked for us either. Becoming a parent myself (with a very helpful husband) really drove that home for me - my mother was frickin' amazing! Hats off to both our Moms!

Why wouldn't a 2 mom family celebrate mother's day, or a 2 dad family celebrate Father's day?

Anonymous wrote:Try to avoid it, honestly. My son doesn't know his father, so it always has the potential to be a difficult day. Thankfully we are on vacation, which makes it much easier to miss.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Try to avoid it, honestly. My son doesn't know his father, so it always has the potential to be a difficult day. Thankfully we are on vacation, which makes it much easier to miss.

Just wanted to offer some encouragement. I don't know my father either, so some years on Father's day I gave my mom a second card, others I gave my grandmother (who lived with us) a card as she helped my mom out a lot, other years I gave a card to my favorite uncle- it sort of depended on whatever whim took me the day the teacher laid out the Father's Day craft . Most important is that I don't ever remember it being a difficult day, mostly because none of the adults in my life let it be.

This year I happen to be flying in for a visit home on Father's Day. I haven't seen my mom in almost a year (the longest we've ever gone without visiting) and so it seems extra special that I'll be seeing her again on Father's Day when she has always pulled double duty.

TL;DR I really appreciate how hard my mom worked raising me by herself, and I'm sure your son will too.

I never knew my father either so growing up we (mom and me) just kind of skipped it - like we skipped Hanukkah and Passover because we weren't Jewish - not all holidays are for everyone. And things are so different now - in our daughter's class there are four families of same gender parents - clearly they aren't going to celebrate either a Father's Day or a Mother's Day in their homes either.

And to PP - I could not appreciate my mother more for how hard she worked for us either. Becoming a parent myself (with a very helpful husband) really drove that home for me - my mother was frickin' amazing! Hats off to both our Moms!

Why wouldn't a 2 mom family celebrate mother's day, or a 2 dad family celebrate Father's day?

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Try to avoid it, honestly. My son doesn't know his father, so it always has the potential to be a difficult day. Thankfully we are on vacation, which makes it much easier to miss.

Just wanted to offer some encouragement. I don't know my father either, so some years on Father's day I gave my mom a second card, others I gave my grandmother (who lived with us) a card as she helped my mom out a lot, other years I gave a card to my favorite uncle- it sort of depended on whatever whim took me the day the teacher laid out the Father's Day craft . Most important is that I don't ever remember it being a difficult day, mostly because none of the adults in my life let it be.

This year I happen to be flying in for a visit home on Father's Day. I haven't seen my mom in almost a year (the longest we've ever gone without visiting) and so it seems extra special that I'll be seeing her again on Father's Day when she has always pulled double duty.

TL;DR I really appreciate how hard my mom worked raising me by herself, and I'm sure your son will too.

I never knew my father either so growing up we (mom and me) just kind of skipped it - like we skipped Hanukkah and Passover because we weren't Jewish - not all holidays are for everyone. And things are so different now - in our daughter's class there are four families of same gender parents - clearly they aren't going to celebrate either a Father's Day or a Mother's Day in their homes either.

And to PP - I could not appreciate my mother more for how hard she worked for us either. Becoming a parent myself (with a very helpful husband) really drove that home for me - my mother was frickin' amazing! Hats off to both our Moms!

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Try to avoid it, honestly. My son doesn't know his father, so it always has the potential to be a difficult day. Thankfully we are on vacation, which makes it much easier to miss.

Just wanted to offer some encouragement. I don't know my father either, so some years on Father's day I gave my mom a second card, others I gave my grandmother (who lived with us) a card as she helped my mom out a lot, other years I gave a card to my favorite uncle- it sort of depended on whatever whim took me the day the teacher laid out the Father's Day craft . Most important is that I don't ever remember it being a difficult day, mostly because none of the adults in my life let it be.

This year I happen to be flying in for a visit home on Father's Day. I haven't seen my mom in almost a year (the longest we've ever gone without visiting) and so it seems extra special that I'll be seeing her again on Father's Day when she has always pulled double duty.

TL;DR I really appreciate how hard my mom worked raising me by herself, and I'm sure your son will too.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Try to avoid it, honestly. My son doesn't know his father, so it always has the potential to be a difficult day. Thankfully we are on vacation, which makes it much easier to miss.

Just wanted to offer some encouragement. I don't know my father either, so some years on Father's day I gave my mom a second card, others I gave my grandmother (who lived with us) a card as she helped my mom out a lot, other years I gave a card to my favorite uncle- it sort of depended on whatever whim took me the day the teacher laid out the Father's Day craft . Most important is that I don't ever remember it being a difficult day, mostly because none of the adults in my life let it be.

This year I happen to be flying in for a visit home on Father's Day. I haven't seen my mom in almost a year (the longest we've ever gone without visiting) and so it seems extra special that I'll be seeing her again on Father's Day when she has always pulled double duty.

TL;DR I really appreciate how hard my mom worked raising me by herself, and I'm sure your son will too.

Anonymous wrote:Try to avoid it, honestly. My son doesn't know his father, so it always has the potential to be a difficult day. Thankfully we are on vacation, which makes it much easier to miss.