The best way to get over a guy is to get under a new one. You need a rebound.

I'm guessing it's a combination of (a) you're not into the guy, and (b) you probably aren't over your ex. Both are ok. Don't pressure yourself to be in anything right now - enjoy your life, enjoy socializing, enjoy dating, and chances are, someone will come along at some point who you will be really excited to kiss.

Anonymous wrote:I say it is a combination of both. Meaning you are still not over your ex and that this is not the right guy.

Guess you will have to kiss some more frogs before you get your prince.

Good luck. Ribbit.

This. (At least it didn't seam like you were kissing your brother----ewwww!)

You'll find someone who will ignite the chemistry spark.

I remember being absolutely heart broken after being dumped by a guy I cared a lot about (but was never really a good match with). I threw myself into the dating world and I remember one night getting kind of drunk and telling a new guy in the picture who was very nice and cute.. that I was just not ready. I remember feeling very sad- just that maybe i would never feel that way again about anyone. But I did..it just happened when I was really ready for it, much much later on. It takes time, be easy on yourself.

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Anonymous wrote:Being over someone in terms of being OK being single/without them, and being over someone in terms of being OK in a new/different relationship are two different things, I have come to understand.

Sounds like you may have achieved one, but not the other yet.

Also could just be that you're not falling for new guy as hard/fast as you fell for your ex, and are now nostalgic for that feeling.

OP: thanks. think you may be right on both points. i did fall hard and fast for the ex, was incredibly romantic...although i think i would also be a bit more cautious now than i was then. still, i think it's probably good to keep going on dating, trying things with new guys...probably will help me move on.

I'm the PP you quoted, and you're welcome. I think continuing to date is fine and even good. Would be different if you were lying awake nights thinking about your ex, or kissing someone else made you panicky or tearful - then I'd say you weren't over him at all, or ready to date. If you just haven't found a connection like the one with your ex yet, and that's what you're missing, dating is the only way to do so.

Anonymous wrote:Being over someone in terms of being OK being single/without them, and being over someone in terms of being OK in a new/different relationship are two different things, I have come to understand.

Sounds like you may have achieved one, but not the other yet.

Also could just be that you're not falling for new guy as hard/fast as you fell for your ex, and are now nostalgic for that feeling.

OP: thanks. think you may be right on both points. i did fall hard and fast for the ex, was incredibly romantic...although i think i would also be a bit more cautious now than i was then. still, i think it's probably good to keep going on dating, trying things with new guys...probably will help me move on.

Being over someone in terms of being OK being single/without them, and being over someone in terms of being OK in a new/different relationship are two different things, I have come to understand.

Sounds like you may have achieved one, but not the other yet.

Also could just be that you're not falling for new guy as hard/fast as you fell for your ex, and are now nostalgic for that feeling.

Keep trying. When you meet someone with more chemistry, you will be excited to kiss him. Or maybe these guys aren't good kissers. You don't have a large enough sample size to tell at this point!

I say it is a combination of both. Meaning you are still not over your ex and that this is not the right guy.

Guess you will have to kiss some more frogs before you get your prince.

Good luck. Ribbit.

Guess you have to remind yourself that this guy wants to kiss you and the ex doesn't.

Kissing is very intimate. There are plenty of people I would have sex with but kiss, ugh.

Not ready, but honestly I don't think you will fare any better staying by yourself. I'm in the same boat. Divorced and dating again. It feels weird kissing someone else, although I'm not still in love with my ex. I just have to push through it. It takes a while to shake it off.

Takes time to get over someone and give another person a chance. What you are going through is normal.

Broke up 6 months ago. Was broken up with..had a hard time with it. I did not initiate. Been trying to date. Kissed one guy two months ago. That was ok. Didn't 't go anywhere though. Last night had a long kissing session with someone else. Was weird for me. Kept thinking about old boyfriend, almost wishing it was him I was with. Is this normal or does it mean I'm not ready. Or that this new guy is not the right guy. Made me more wistful I think than excited.