My niece's father is in jail. So there isn't much he can do. I have tried to talk to my sister, but she doesn't want to talk about what happened.

What would you do if he was hitting your niece as well?

OP,

You didn't want this job but it's yours.

Try to find enough inner resources of courage within yourself, to do the right thing, which is to stop the cycle of abuse and convince your sister and her child to leave. Can you talk to a therapist, or a priest, about this? Can you get your sister's boyfriend, or anyone else you know from there, to take pictures of the bruises and document everything?

Contact police with evidence and get this guy to jail.

I know you want to escape the drama, but this is an innocent child we're talking about! Plus your sister, who's emotionally stunted and could be considered vulnerable like a child as well.

Are you in a financial position to take care of the child? Can you find your sister a job here?
She needs to be far, far away from her abuser because she can't help herself at this point. She will likely seek out unhealthy relationships for quite some time because of this, so caring for the fallout will take years.

Stay strong, OP.

Anonymous wrote:If the child is in the home while an adult is being abused, the child is being emotionally abused. Call CPS now. Not tomorrow. Now. There is someone on call. Reports are anonymous. Call right this minute. Zero excuses.

This.

You cannot help people until they want to be helped. The best thing you could do is encourage her to stop breeding.

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Anonymous wrote:I live 12 hours away. I do want to report it, but when I have done so I get scolded as if I were the bad person.

You have the same problem your sister does. You are a grown adult! Wtf do you care if someone scolds you for doing the right thing? Get a freaking spine and report this guy! When you do let them know there's a history of abuse.

+1. Grow a fucking spine. With some luck,he'd hit you next time you visit and you can press charges. BTDT. It was well worth it.

If the child is in the home while an adult is being abused, the child is being emotionally abused. Call CPS now. Not tomorrow. Now. There is someone on call. Reports are anonymous. Call right this minute. Zero excuses.

Anonymous wrote:I live 12 hours away. I do want to report it, but when I have done so I get scolded as if I were the bad person.

You have the same problem your sister does. You are a grown adult! Wtf do you care if someone scolds you for doing the right thing? Get a freaking spine and report this guy! When you do let them know there's a history of abuse.

I live 12 hours away. I do want to report it, but when I have done so I get scolded as if I were the bad person.

Anonymous wrote:The crazy thing about this is that it has happened several times. CPS was in our home 3 or 4 times while we were growing up. He was even extremely abusive my aunt as well. My mom doesn't do anything because she depends on him for financial reasons. I even got in trouble for telling people at school that he was abusing her. My family just said that he can hit her because that's his daughter. But not if someone is bruised or welped.

Take photos and call the police yourself.

The crazy thing about this is that it has happened several times. CPS was in our home 3 or 4 times while we were growing up. He was even extremely abusive my aunt as well. My mom doesn't do anything because she depends on him for financial reasons. I even got in trouble for telling people at school that he was abusing her. My family just said that he can hit her because that's his daughter. But not if someone is bruised or welped.

Anonymous wrote:She's only makes $12/hour. She didn't go to college. So she's pretty much stuck there or perhaps with a relative until she makes enough to pay rent, car payment, necessities for kid etc. I offered her to move her with me, but she doesn't want to be far away. I have given her options, applying for a new job, but she hasn't been interested

There is nothing you can do since she doesn't want to help herself. Encourage her to call the police or your mom to call the police. She needs to stop dating and worry about providing for her child (getting $ for a place of their own.) Where is the child's father? He should be contributing so they can live in a SAFE environment.

If you didn't witness it, it didn't happen. SHE needs to step up and call the police and do something about her. All you can do is advise her. Maybe call a woman's abuse hotline and ask them for suggestions?

You can make a report about the abuse of a vulnerable adult.It is very difficult though if the adult isn't intellectually or physically disabled.

A different tack is to report to CPS that the child is in a home where an adult is being abused. They will investigate.

She's only makes $12/hour. She didn't go to college. So she's pretty much stuck there or perhaps with a relative until she makes enough to pay rent, car payment, necessities for kid etc. I offered her to move her with me, but she doesn't want to be far away. I have given her options, applying for a new job, but she hasn't been interested

Help her to get out of that house.
Is she financially dependent on the stepfather and your mother?
Why does your mother permit the abuse?

Good luck.

My younger sister is in her mid 20s and lives at home along with her young daughter and my mom and step dad. I received a call from a family member saying that he hit her and pushed her down because she wouldn't clean. Also she is dating a guy and my step dad said that he wants to run a background check on him because he doesn't know him at all. I live far away from home(to escape the drama). But I want to help my sister because this isn't the first time that she has been abused by him. He even hit her while she was pregnant with my niece and also as a young child. Often leaving bruises and welps. What can I do?