A few weeks ago there was a woman who was raped by her husband at gunpoint and she posted here. No one doubted her or that it was serious because she posted here instead of calling 911. This man was assaulted by his wife and needs help. In many ways being assaulted by someone less strong can be worse because there is the fear that you will get prosecuted if you defend yourself. Please do not minimize what happened here.

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Anonymous wrote:Why should it matter what he did? This woman was clearly out of line. She assaulted her DH, took his phone and his glasses, leaving him blind. That is pretty serious. He should call 911.

THIS. PP, would you ask a woman what led up to it? Male or female, this is assault.

OP, report it. Then, I would suggest you look at ways to keep yourself safe. I have no idea what is available to men but it's something to consider.

I would ask a woman posting exactly this on DCUM. If he hasn't already called 911, and is posting instead on DCUM, it makes me wonder what provoked the attack--is she mentally ill, just straight up crazy, being cheated on, etc. if you're going to share a story like this on a message board, share the story. If you don't want to share the story, call the cops and gtfo of the house. I don't think I was out of line.

Agreed.

OP, if you don't call 911, please at least call the domestic violence hotline to help guide you on the next steps. Please take care of yourself.

1-800-799-7233

http://www.thehotline.org/

Anonymous wrote:Well, it matters what he did before if he hit her before. Otherwise, not really. Is he hurt? I suspect not. Especially if he thinks taking his keys/phone/glasses is the worst part of it.

Do you think before you post? Imagine yourself in the situation where your spouse assaulted you the way this man describes his wife assaulted him. If you really think your behavior leading up to the assault somehow mitigates your husband's actions, then you really do need help. That's a very skewed, unhealthy perspective.

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Anonymous wrote:Why should it matter what he did? This woman was clearly out of line. She assaulted her DH, took his phone and his glasses, leaving him blind. That is pretty serious. He should call 911.

THIS. PP, would you ask a woman what led up to it? Male or female, this is assault.

OP, report it. Then, I would suggest you look at ways to keep yourself safe. I have no idea what is available to men but it's something to consider.

I would ask a woman posting exactly this on DCUM. If he hasn't already called 911, and is posting instead on DCUM, it makes me wonder what provoked the attack--is she mentally ill, just straight up crazy, being cheated on, etc. if you're going to share a story like this on a message board, share the story. If you don't want to share the story, call the cops and gtfo of the house. I don't think I was out of line.

If you had posted that on a thread about a women being attacked, you would have been crucified. Trying to figure out what a woman did to provoke a man to attack her and saying she must be cheating on him or he's ill wouldn't fly. The reality is that it makes no difference what he did. None. She attacked him and that is 100% on her.

That's fine, I was just keeping in mind that we are on an online message board for dc moms & dads. It's not really a helpline or support group or police message board. Why take the time to post about the hideous situation here? If the person is truly looking for lawyer advice, he could've just said, Can someone recommend a VA lawyer for a male victim of domestic violence / assault?

Well, it matters what he did before if he hit her before. Otherwise, not really. Is he hurt? I suspect not. Especially if he thinks taking his keys/phone/glasses is the worst part of it.

Family Justice Center in Rockville if you are in Mont. County. I'm sorry Op. Nobody should get physical and manipulative like that.

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Anonymous wrote:Why should it matter what he did? This woman was clearly out of line. She assaulted her DH, took his phone and his glasses, leaving him blind. That is pretty serious. He should call 911.

THIS. PP, would you ask a woman what led up to it? Male or female, this is assault.

OP, report it. Then, I would suggest you look at ways to keep yourself safe. I have no idea what is available to men but it's something to consider.

I would ask a woman posting exactly this on DCUM. If he hasn't already called 911, and is posting instead on DCUM, it makes me wonder what provoked the attack--is she mentally ill, just straight up crazy, being cheated on, etc. if you're going to share a story like this on a message board, share the story. If you don't want to share the story, call the cops and gtfo of the house. I don't think I was out of line.

If you had posted that on a thread about a women being attacked, you would have been crucified. Trying to figure out what a woman did to provoke a man to attack her and saying she must be cheating on him or he's ill wouldn't fly. The reality is that it makes no difference what he did. None. She attacked him and that is 100% on her.

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Anonymous wrote:Why should it matter what he did? This woman was clearly out of line. She assaulted her DH, took his phone and his glasses, leaving him blind. That is pretty serious. He should call 911.

THIS. PP, would you ask a woman what led up to it? Male or female, this is assault.

OP, report it. Then, I would suggest you look at ways to keep yourself safe. I have no idea what is available to men but it's something to consider.

I would ask a woman posting exactly this on DCUM. If he hasn't already called 911, and is posting instead on DCUM, it makes me wonder what provoked the attack--is she mentally ill, just straight up crazy, being cheated on, etc. if you're going to share a story like this on a message board, share the story. If you don't want to share the story, call the cops and gtfo of the house. I don't think I was out of line.

Anonymous wrote:Why should it matter what he did? This woman was clearly out of line. She assaulted her DH, took his phone and his glasses, leaving him blind. That is pretty serious. He should call 911.

THIS. PP, would you ask a woman what led up to it? Male or female, this is assault.

OP, report it. Then, I would suggest you look at ways to keep yourself safe. I have no idea what is available to men but it's something to consider.

I would call the police. You need a police report and get a TPO. Only state the facts, as a man you are vulnerable in these situations. You may also want to contact a lawyer to protect yourself. Are there kids in the house? If so you need to get the kids and yourself somewhere safe. If no kids, then leave and go stay with a friend.

It makes no difference what led up to it. She assaulted you and if not physically abusive before, has been verbally abusive before. This isn't how someone acts the first time they are abusive. Thousands of men a year are murdered by their wives - you don't want to know how much more she is capable of.

It is hard to find resources that are male victim friendly. You can also call this helpline - they are supportive of male victims. 1-888-743-5754

Why should it matter what he did? This woman was clearly out of line. She assaulted her DH, took his phone and his glasses, leaving him blind. That is pretty serious. He should call 911.

Anonymous wrote:Call 911

+1

Why don't you share what led up to it?

Call 911

DW assaulted me this morning - kicking, pinching at my face and slapping me - mostly while I was on the floor. She also bit me on the hand while I was holding her hand to keep her from hitting me. She had me cornered against the bathroom sink at that time. She then took my cell phone, my glasses and car key to keep from leaving the house. I got them back when she got in her car and I was able to run out, grab her bag and then lock her out of the house. In my book, not on,y the physical aspect but the taking of the glasses, leaving me sightless and unable to go anywhere even without my car nets tells me my DW is capable of doing anything. I am debating now whether and how to report this to the police at I have it on record. I think this behavior may also warrant a TPO. Does anyone have a lawyer in VA they can recommend?