Wait until the other son's birthday and they get him one too, then retire the iPads and move on with our lives.

Anonymous wrote:"What a nice gift! Won't it be nice to use the next time we go on a long car ride! We'll put it in my closet until we need it. Now let's write Granny a nice note to thank her."

+1000

Anonymous wrote:OP is a horrible PITA DIL.

You thank the in-laws for their generosity and your son now has his own iPad but still uses it with the same family rules as before. Now your other son can have one of the family ones as his exclusive iPad and there is one for "Mom & Dad" to use. There is no reason not to accept the gift, but put it under the family rules. It's just plain obnoxious and rude to refuse a generous gift from a child's grandparents because you're a bitch who resents her in-laws so much that you won't accept an expensive gift from them because they can't read your mind about what you think is an appropriate gift.

Right on. OP is searching for something to get indignant about. Manners, please!

OP is a horrible PITA DIL.

You thank the in-laws for their generosity and your son now has his own iPad but still uses it with the same family rules as before. Now your other son can have one of the family ones as his exclusive iPad and there is one for "Mom & Dad" to use. There is no reason not to accept the gift, but put it under the family rules. It's just plain obnoxious and rude to refuse a generous gift from a child's grandparents because you're a bitch who resents her in-laws so much that you won't accept an expensive gift from them because they can't read your mind about what you think is an appropriate gift.

Anonymous wrote:Get him a nice case, thank them and have them write a thank you note.

+1
My parents did the same for each of my boys this past Christmas and we already owned a "family iPad" plus two Kindle Fires. We bought thanked them and bought them "kid-proof" cases.

Just thank them, be grateful they wanted to do something nice, and establish whatever limits you want.

"What a nice gift! Won't it be nice to use the next time we go on a long car ride! We'll put it in my closet until we need it. Now let's write Granny a nice note to thank her."

Anonymous wrote:I would let him keep it, but limit the amount of time to what you currently allow. Thank them for the gift, but maybe with a little jab like "Oh, did you know that we already have 2 iPads?" or "we were going to get them both iPads when they're older and need them for schoolwork" or something that says "hey- you should have checked with us before you did this."

How rude, seriously.

Thank them and explain you are donating it to someone who needs it.
give it to the oncology ward at Children's or to an organization working with disabled vets or children with ASD.

I would let him keep it, but limit the amount of time to what you currently allow. Thank them for the gift, but maybe with a little jab like "Oh, did you know that we already have 2 iPads?" or "we were going to get them both iPads when they're older and need them for schoolwork" or something that says "hey- you should have checked with us before you did this."

Get him a nice case, thank them and have them write a thank you note.

Say thank you and put whatever restrictions you need to on the use of the iPad- can only use it when you say, kept with the other iPads and not in his room, etc.

Thank them and then discuss with your husband how to establish clear guidelines for its use.

thank your ILs and then donate it to a school

We have 2 ipads in our house that are used by the entire family. I have 2 boys and I'd say they use them about 25-30 min per week. My husband and I also each have an Iphone that they can play with on occasion if we are on a long car ride or they want to use them to take a picture, etc. My point is ..we have plenty of technology. My Inlaws who live out of state sent my son an Ipad mini for his 6th birthday and they did not ask us or tell us that they were doing this. They are not the easiest people to get along with, I should add...they are very controlling and opinionated and just in general people I try to limit my time with. That being said, I am not sure how to handle the gift. I think the "exclusive ownership" of an item such as an Ipad needs to wait until my son is much older. He had never wanted his own (although he was thrilled to receive it) nor does he need his own. He has plenty of time for that sort of thing. What would you do?? My husband agrees with me but feels bad because he thinks they were just doing something nice since they live so far and don't see them often. I really don't care what their intentions were..I don't want my son to keep the gift. Any ideas??!!!! Its driving me crazy!!
Thank you!!!!