Anonymous wrote:I want a female divorce attorney. Good but not necessarily the most expensive out there.

I had an affair and my husband knows about it. That's long gone and we have both tried to recover and make it work but I am just not happy. We've been married almost 20 years.

We have a lot of assets. I used to earn a lot and have a sizable 401K. I have been home with the kids for a few years and am just starting up a new career and I won't be making much money for a while.

We also have big money tied up in our house. We will keep the house. The kids will grow up in this house. I know we both want that.

He earns over $500K a year. Our only debt is our mortgage which will be paid off in less than 10 years. I don't want much from him. I want my 401K and I would like him to buy me out of the house. I just want my freedom to live the life I always wanted to live but never had the courage. [u]

Thanks in advance

I understand what you are saying as I am very much like this....
We live were DH's career will flourish at the expense of mine. Among other things, I hate living here and will move once youngest is off to college. Now, I feel like I can't have girl friends to do GNO and leave DH "home with the kids AGAIN." We only socialize with a very select few couples because DH is quite picky with friends. I look forward to going places, doing things etc... without having to ask him if he'll come with me and him saying no we're not going. I look forward to doings things I want and even though I will do it alone, I will feel blessed.

Good luck, OP!

op - shared the info on my financial status in hopes of getting a rec from someone in a similar situation - certainly not trying to impress anyone with my money for heaven's sake - hell - I'm getting a freakin divorce - i could not give two shits about the money - frankly if he made less money and wasn't a freakin workaholic I wouldn't want a divorce

I can't stand living here. Once my kids are grown and off to college I am moving somewhere where people don't care what you drive, where you live or how much money you have

Anonymous wrote:For crying out loud, the OP is asking for a divorce lawyer. Why is she getting blamed? How do we know her husband isn't an insensitive workaholic control freak who doesn't give a crap about her?

Well she didn't just ask for a divorce attorney, which might be what rubbed people the wrong way. She had to tell us all how much money she has.

Anonymous wrote:OP here - I'm in Maryland. No worries about those who try to shame me. I've grown to be very shame resilient. I love my children and hope to pass the same resilience on to them. Still could use a recommendation for a divorce attorney.

http://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/jforum.page?module=search&action=search&search_keywords=Divorce+attorney+md&match_type=all&search_forum=&sort_by=relevance

OP here - I'm in Maryland. No worries about those who try to shame me. I've grown to be very shame resilient. I love my children and hope to pass the same resilience on to them. Still could use a recommendation for a divorce attorney.

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Anonymous wrote:You're willing to abandon your kids do you can live the life you always wanted to?

Men do this all the time.

No where did OP say she was abandoning her kids. And to the next poster, what is your point? Because some men do it, it's okay if a woman does it?

For crying out loud, the OP is asking for a divorce lawyer. Why is she getting blamed? How do we know her husband isn't an insensitive workaholic control freak who doesn't give a crap about her?

Anonymous wrote:You're willing to abandon your kids do you can live the life you always wanted to?

Men do this all the time.

Maybe you should move out of the house and DH take the kids, then you can live the life you've always wanted.

You're willing to abandon your kids do you can live the life you always wanted to?

You need to say where you are: DC, MD or VA?

I want a female divorce attorney. Good but not necessarily the most expensive out there.

I had an affair and my husband knows about it. That's long gone and we have both tried to recover and make it work but I am just not happy. We've been married almost 20 years.

We have a lot of assets. I used to earn a lot and have a sizable 401K. I have been home with the kids for a few years and am just starting up a new career and I won't be making much money for a while.

We also have big money tied up in our house. We will keep the house. The kids will grow up in this house. I know we both want that.

He earns over $500K a year. Our only debt is our mortgage which will be paid off in less than 10 years. I don't want much from him. I want my 401K and I would like him to buy me out of the house. I just want my freedom to live the life I always wanted to live but never had the courage.

Thanks in advance