Anonymous
Post 05/10/2014 11:18     Subject: Signs of an Affair?

Anonymous wrote:I have noticed consistent texting and calls to the same number on DW's phone bill. Last night, she says she needs to stay late for work. Usually, we drive to work together. She asked me to take the car home and I gave her mr Metro Smart Card. At around 11pm, she calls e to pick her up at the Metro. This morning, I look at my Smart Card account. It dhows her entering the metro near her office and exiting at Ballston. However, it does not show who re-entering the system later and exiting at our Metro station. Would you say the signs point to an affair? If so, how do I confront her?


Can't you call this number and see who answers it? You can even get a temporary line to do this.
Anonymous
Post 05/10/2014 11:13     Subject: Re:Signs of an Affair?

Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Confirm what you suspect BEFORE you confront her. Don't ask her. TELL her.


+1 Another voice of experience here.


+2. Sit and wait. If you're like me that will be hard, but you want a solid case when you tell her you know. Otherwise she will try to manipulate you into thinking you're crazy.
Anonymous
Post 05/10/2014 10:48     Subject: Signs of an Affair?

Dude, don't panic. Keep it together. But you do need more information so that if it is nothing, you don't come of as an ass.
Anonymous
Post 05/10/2014 10:23     Subject: Re:Signs of an Affair?

Anonymous wrote:Confirm what you suspect BEFORE you confront her. Don't ask her. TELL her.


+1 Another voice of experience here.
Anonymous
Post 05/10/2014 10:22     Subject: Signs of an Affair?

What caused you to be suspicious and check on things in the first place?
Anonymous
Post 05/10/2014 10:15     Subject: Re:Signs of an Affair?

Confirm what you suspect BEFORE you confront her. Don't ask her. TELL her.
Anonymous
Post 05/10/2014 09:45     Subject: Re:Signs of an Affair?

Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:It's kind of creepy that you are keeping so many tabs on her. Checking phone bills, and tracking her whereabouts.


Not if he is suspicious about a sudden change in activities. But he needs more info.


If you go snooping, you will always find something and convince yourself it's an affair.
Anonymous
Post 05/10/2014 09:29     Subject: Re:Signs of an Affair?

Anonymous wrote:It's kind of creepy that you are keeping so many tabs on her. Checking phone bills, and tracking her whereabouts.


Not if he is suspicious about a sudden change in activities. But he needs more info.
Anonymous
Post 05/10/2014 09:01     Subject: Signs of an Affair?

Anonymous wrote:I would wait and try to gather more information. And I say this from experience.


+1.
Anonymous
Post 05/10/2014 09:01     Subject: Re:Signs of an Affair?

It's kind of creepy that you are keeping so many tabs on her. Checking phone bills, and tracking her whereabouts.
Anonymous
Post 05/10/2014 08:51     Subject: Signs of an Affair?

Op go over and post on www.survivinginfidelity.com. You can post on the Just Found Out forum even if you aren't sure.
Anonymous
Post 05/10/2014 08:47     Subject: Signs of an Affair?

Is there anything else?
Anonymous
Post 05/10/2014 08:46     Subject: Signs of an Affair?

I would wait and try to gather more information. And I say this from experience.
Anonymous
Post 05/10/2014 08:45     Subject: Signs of an Affair?

Can you just ask her who she's talking to so much and why she took the Metro to Ballston?

Is she distant? Unloving?
Anonymous
Post 05/10/2014 08:41     Subject: Signs of an Affair?

I have noticed consistent texting and calls to the same number on DW's phone bill. Last night, she says she needs to stay late for work. Usually, we drive to work together. She asked me to take the car home and I gave her mr Metro Smart Card. At around 11pm, she calls e to pick her up at the Metro. This morning, I look at my Smart Card account. It dhows her entering the metro near her office and exiting at Ballston. However, it does not show who re-entering the system later and exiting at our Metro station. Would you say the signs point to an affair? If so, how do I confront her?