Anonymous wrote:They are charmers, too bad I found out too late

Did you get out of the relationship? Or still in it?

This article is very helpful.

I dated one. Feel sorry for his wife.

"Some sociopaths will go to great lengths to make you believe their lies. For example, a sociopath may pretend to leave "to go to work" every single day even if that person is unemployed."

Wow, my physically abusive ex did exactly that for 2 months. Pretended to go to work every day and continually lied to cover it up.

Sometimes, he's just an asshole. No other label needed.

They are charmers, too bad I found out too late

Anonymous wrote:That means he's confident, decisive, bold! Chicks dig that. I saw a lot more girls in high school passing over the guys on the chess team for guys who were closer to that description of sociopaths.

This is really such a silly comment. I went to both high school and college with so many of these "confident, decisive, bold" guys (some jocks, some business majors, some just really thought they were hot shit for whatever reason). Only 2, and I remember them distinctly, fit the description in this article.

There is a difference between confident, maybe even pushy, and loud and "big"... and controlling, cruel, manipulative beyond regular teenage/college manipulation. Big differences.

The guys you saw girls go for did NOT fit the description of a sociopath. Matter of fact, many of these sociopaths are NOT the brash loud jocks. They may seem super confident and persistent, but they're not the captain of the football team or the homecoming king. Or, rather, it's just as common for the sociopath to be the homecoming king as it is for him to be a nerd on the chess team. They are just sociopaths coming from different contexts.

Anonymous wrote:That means he's confident, decisive, bold! Chicks dig that. I saw a lot more girls in high school passing over the guys on the chess team for guys who were closer to that description of sociopaths.

So, don't act like a sociopath unless you want to have sex with hot, teenage girls. Got it.

I think the main problem is that they can be very charming at first and it can take awhile to realize all the lies. And their super-focused attention can feel good at first... Then it just gets scary. And if they're a true sociopath, then extricating yourself can be dangerous. But it must be done.

Lying, manipulative, violent, immature ... who'd want to date him anyway?

Whatever ^^. If you rounded up all the chicks from your high school today, I guarantee you that none of the living, happy chicks in healthy relationships are dating this guy.

That means he's confident, decisive, bold! Chicks dig that. I saw a lot more girls in high school passing over the guys on the chess team for guys who were closer to that description of sociopaths.

Just read this - very thorough article on how to spot a sociopath and how to avoid them if possible. Found it to be right on:

http://m.wikihow.com/Spot-a-Sociopath