Anonymous
Post 04/30/2014 21:42     Subject: We have 50 people coming over and my husband is vacuuming the unfinished basement...

Typical fat lazy wives complaining about their husbands. You all would be pissed if he was just sitting around doing nothing.
Anonymous
Post 04/30/2014 21:39     Subject: We have 50 people coming over and my husband is vacuuming the unfinished basement...

Anonymous wrote:This would be my husband. The stuff that actually matters, I have to do. So by the time the party starts I am a raving bitch. Hard to come down from that and try to enjoy myself.


Did I write this while I wasn't looking????

This is my husband EXACTLY.

Why?
- less experience than I have about time management with housework. Actually, he is always rubbish at time management in any sphere. A little ADD there.
- less experience than I have about inviting people over, and what is going to get noticed, what is not, what they really need (food and drink, not a double-mopped floor with a stinky detergent!).

And the problem is...
He can never acknowledge that he should follow my list of priorities!
The more I remind him about the stuff that needs to get done, the more oppositional he becomes, like a toddler.
It makes me angry that I have to do it all myself, put everything else in my life on hold and start 2 weeks before the party.
Also, if I dare to move his stuff because it's in the way and has noticeable cobwebs and a 2 inches of dust, he goes ballistic.

But, there is hope...
Now that DC1 is 9, he is a reliable cleaner-upper. Even 4 year old DC2 helps by fetching and carrying.

Sorry, I'm grumpy - just had 2 parties back-to-back and DH was no help at all!
Commiseration, OP.
Anonymous
Post 04/30/2014 21:34     Subject: We have 50 people coming over and my husband is vacuuming the unfinished basement...

Sounds like my dad.
Anonymous
Post 04/30/2014 21:32     Subject: We have 50 people coming over and my husband is vacuuming the unfinished basement...

So funny, my husband does the exact same thing. I'll ask him to help clean when we have people coming over, and he'll clean, like, the inside of the upstairs linen closet. Drives me nuts.
Anonymous
Post 04/30/2014 21:23     Subject: We have 50 people coming over and my husband is vacuuming the unfinished basement...

OP here. Thanks for the perspective. Sometimes I think it's just him!
Anonymous
Post 04/30/2014 21:19     Subject: We have 50 people coming over and my husband is vacuuming the unfinished basement...

Just be thankful than he is at least trying to be helpful. Criticize him and he will stop altogether and then you have a bigger problem.
Anonymous
Post 04/30/2014 21:14     Subject: Re:We have 50 people coming over and my husband is vacuuming the unfinished basement...

Wait - is my DH cheating on me with you? This is soooo him in a nutshell. This morning the baby was freaking out b/c she was hungry and I asked him to grab a bottle that was already prepped in the fridge. 10 minutes later I finally go downstairs and he is cleaning all the dishes/bottle stuff from the previous night before coming back up. Baby is crying this whole time. And now he is already running behind for work. He's a walking time management fail - but he is trying to be so helpful so I mostly just keep my mouth shut!
Anonymous
Post 04/30/2014 21:12     Subject: We have 50 people coming over and my husband is vacuuming the unfinished basement...

This would be my husband. The stuff that actually matters, I have to do. So by the time the party starts I am a raving bitch. Hard to come down from that and try to enjoy myself.
Anonymous
Post 04/30/2014 21:09     Subject: We have 50 people coming over and my husband is vacuuming the unfinished basement...

Mine is also like this
Anonymous
Post 04/30/2014 21:08     Subject: We have 50 people coming over and my husband is vacuuming the unfinished basement...

OMG - my husband is like this. He swears that he's competent at work, just not at home.
Anonymous
Post 04/30/2014 21:08     Subject: Re:We have 50 people coming over and my husband is vacuuming the unfinished basement...

My DH does things like that -- he thinks he's being helpful, but he has no sense of priorities.
Anonymous
Post 04/30/2014 21:02     Subject: We have 50 people coming over and my husband is vacuuming the unfinished basement...

I also asked him to come detail my car. I promise I'll park it near your house, once it sparkles.
Anonymous
Post 04/30/2014 21:00     Subject: We have 50 people coming over and my husband is vacuuming the unfinished basement...

Anonymous wrote:That no one will see. There are 100 other things that we need to do. Very typical of him. Truly the smartest moron I've ever met.


lol ha ha ha ha
Anonymous
Post 04/30/2014 20:59     Subject: We have 50 people coming over and my husband is vacuuming the unfinished basement...

Having a glass of wine for you right now OP.
Anonymous
Post 04/30/2014 20:57     Subject: We have 50 people coming over and my husband is vacuuming the unfinished basement...

That no one will see. There are 100 other things that we need to do. Very typical of him. Truly the smartest moron I've ever met.