Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I need one that says:
Mom, I love you, even though I no longer put up with your shit. Sorry that it has to be this way, but really, it's your fault.

Hum… it takes two to tango.

and it's time to grow up and forgive...

OP, don't send a card with this bitter sentiment. if you need to hash things out with your mom do so in a conversation.

Anonymous wrote:I have my son send her a card. She is not a great grandma, but
he treasures her as his only living grandparent (meanwhile getting some great grandparenting from a neighbor).

Hugs - Mother's Day is hard for me too. My mom is a totally self absorbed person who enabled my abusive dad for years. I can't do mother's day.

Same here. Now that I've got my own kids, I can't fathom how my mother could allow him to do what he did. I used to think she was as much a victim as we were but not after having my own kids. She failed us horrifically with very tragic consequences. If he hadn't died, I'm sure she'd still be married to him - yet, his death was the best thing that ever happened to me. I can't stand the cards they have for Mother's Day. I'm glad my kids can acknowledge her so I don't have to.

I have my son send her a card. She is not a great grandma, but
he treasures her as his only living grandparent (meanwhile getting some great grandparenting from a neighbor).

Hugs - Mother's Day is hard for me too. My mom is a totally self absorbed person who enabled my abusive dad for years. I can't do mother's day.

Anonymous wrote:I need one that says:
Mom, I love you, even though I no longer put up with your shit. Sorry that it has to be this way, but really, it's your fault.

Hum… it takes two to tango.

Anonymous wrote:Why are you thinking about Mothers' Day cards already, OP?

Probably because it is 2 weeks away and in order to get a card somewhere you have to think about purchasing one, make it to a store to purchase one, stare at the rack and get frustrated because they are all such bullshit, go home, go back to the store, and finally buy the least laughable one of the bunch, then send it off.

I didn't acknowledge mothers day last year. My birthday is in October and my father told me that my mother didn't want to give me anything for it because of my lack of doing anything for mother's day.

My mother became a shittier and shittier mother as the years went on, and now it's at the point where I don't ever want to be around her at all. Sometimes I can stand to talk to her for about 10 minutes once a month. She lives on the other side of the country and I don't visit.

To the poster who said "You can't think of one good thing about your mother?" - well, yes. I can. But I've already acknowledged the good things she did when I was growing up. I don't feel like acknowledging them every SINGLE year. That seems stupid.

She's not a good mother now. I don't respect her. I'm not even sure I love her anymore. She has done a lot of really, really awful things with deep, long-lasting consequences that both my sister and I work hard at overcoming. So no, I don't really want to pat her on the back for things she did in the 80's and 90's because Hallmark tells me it's time to.

I'm going to have my 2 year old draw something for her, make a card out of it, and write Happy Mother's Day on it. And just leave out the part about her driving me nuts.

Why are you thinking about Mothers' Day cards already, OP?

You can't think of one good thing about your mother?

Mom - is that you??

Anonymous wrote:Last year, my SIL got offended that I didn't wish her a Happy Mother's Day.

That's just weird.

Anonymous wrote:Last year, my SIL got offended that I didn't wish her a Happy Mother's Day. Apparently she was so offended, that she decided not to wish me "Happy Birthday" a few weeks later. I'm not really offended because I'm an adult, and I think making a big deal out of birthdays as an adult is kind of weird, but she was so passive aggressive and deliberate about it. Do go out of your way to wish all the mom's in your life a "Happy Mother's Day?"

No way.

Last year, my SIL got offended that I didn't wish her a Happy Mother's Day. Apparently she was so offended, that she decided not to wish me "Happy Birthday" a few weeks later. I'm not really offended because I'm an adult, and I think making a big deal out of birthdays as an adult is kind of weird, but she was so passive aggressive and deliberate about it. Do go out of your way to wish all the mom's in your life a "Happy Mother's Day?"

Then I wouldn't send a card. Can you get through a MD phone call?

You can't think of one good thing about your mother?

I need one that says:
Mom, I love you, even though I no longer put up with your shit. Sorry that it has to be this way, but really, it's your fault.