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Anonymous wrote:PP, yes. The thing is that once you're aware of your cycle and your fertile times, you can't unlearn that info. Even though I stopped TTC about 18 months ago, I still can't help but be aware of whether I'm approaching ovulation.

This is so me. I'm glad someone else is there too. DH thinks I'm making things too scientific with temping, OPK's, checking CM/CP etc. and thinks it would happen if I just ignored it all. However...it's so hard to innocently see that EWCM in your underwear mid-cycle and not know exactly what that means!

Exactly.
To OP--how did you "Just have sex"? I would think that after TTC for 3 years it would be extremely hard to" just have sex" because you'd have to know if you were fertile at the time of having sex or not.
We have TTC for several years (finally did IVF for both kids) and I clearly know when I'm fertile each month. 1) it's mid cycle 2) I get the discharge.
So even know I feel like I can't unlearn this knowledge and if we're having unprotected sex we're either trying or abstaining. There's no just innocently having sex.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:PP, yes. The thing is that once you're aware of your cycle and your fertile times, you can't unlearn that info. Even though I stopped TTC about 18 months ago, I still can't help but be aware of whether I'm approaching ovulation.

This is so me. I'm glad someone else is there too. DH thinks I'm making things too scientific with temping, OPK's, checking CM/CP etc. and thinks it would happen if I just ignored it all. However...it's so hard to innocently see that EWCM in your underwear mid-cycle and not know exactly what that means!

Exactly what my DH said! He's like, "down with this whole science mumbo-jumbo!" But... how can you go wrong with science? The idea of just making love when we want to is my equivalent to "babydust." Gimme a break! there are clearly times when we need to bang and times when it wont matter. So who would dream of putting away the science in this equation? I don't get it.

Anonymous wrote:PP, yes. The thing is that once you're aware of your cycle and your fertile times, you can't unlearn that info. Even though I stopped TTC about 18 months ago, I still can't help but be aware of whether I'm approaching ovulation.

This is so me. I'm glad someone else is there too. DH thinks I'm making things too scientific with temping, OPK's, checking CM/CP etc. and thinks it would happen if I just ignored it all. However...it's so hard to innocently see that EWCM in your underwear mid-cycle and not know exactly what that means!

PP, yes. The thing is that once you're aware of your cycle and your fertile times, you can't unlearn that info. Even though I stopped TTC about 18 months ago, I still can't help but be aware of whether I'm approaching ovulation.

Today my therapist urged me to stop temping and just make love when we want to. But I'm such an anxious planner it is so hard to let go of that. I think I actually feel less stress when I can see that I have ovulated. Has anyone else wrestled with the stress of temping?

Crazy = Good!!

I hear these stories and I think they go to show you that sometimes people need to stop trying too hard for something and just let nature take its course.

Congratulations OP to both you and your partner!!!!!

May your dream finally come true!!!

OP here, I do wonder if the high stress of getting pregnant contributed to my dificulties in conceiving. Once we officially gave up, and weren't stressing about whether this would finally be the month that we got a BFP, or if we would be devestated again with another BFN, I actually felt so relieved. I wonder if that had something to do with it.

Thanks everyone! I'm super excited!

I really appreciate you sharing this story OP. This is a cause for hope, and also makes me think, stop trying!! Either way, congrats and best wishes for an easy and healthy pregnancy.

I got on BC to prevent this same thing from possibly happening!

This sort of happened to us. Lots of chemical pgs, one 12 week miscarriage. One month I said hey, don't want to really try b/c of work, and meant it. I just needed a mental break. Bammo. First successful pregnancy.

It's hard though, b/c you read stories like this and you think "ok! stop trying!!"

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Anonymous wrote:Congratulations! Trying to interpret this story as cause for hope and not for jealousy.

OP here, I definitely would want this story to be a cause for hope!

I didn't interpret anything negative in this. Congrats OP that certainly gives me hope that things can work out in the end. Best of luck!

Anonymous wrote:Congratulations! Trying to interpret this story as cause for hope and not for jealousy.

OP here, I definitely would want this story to be a cause for hope!

Congrats

Congratulations! Trying to interpret this story as cause for hope and not for jealousy.

DH and I TTC for about 3 years. My doctor recommended fertility treatment, but it just wasn't an option due to our finances, so we officially gave up. We were so tired of having sex so much, the month we gave up, we only had sex 1 time. The next month, we found out I'm pregnant! How crazy is that?