Anonymous
Post 04/18/2014 23:40     Subject: Re:Question for black people from a white person
I prefer no more than five people of color, at any given event, so yes, please let me know....
Anonymous
Post 04/18/2014 23:18     Subject: Question for black people from a white person
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:If I invite you to a BBQ or dinner party or any gathering at my house really, do you want to know ahead of time if you'll be the only black people there? And if so, will you come even if you are?


Do you want to know if you're the only white person at an all black event OP? And will you come if you are? I'm black, and this is a foolishness. What quality of relationships do you have with your friends/acquaintances to have these silly questions?


I grew up in a very white area of Long Island surrounded by other white areas. In the 20 years I lived there, we literally NEVER had a black person over to our house. I've never had a black friend. Been friendly with black people at work enough to go to lunch sometimes, but never had their home or cell phone number. I would be uncomfortable at an all black event. I've never been the minority anywhere. I'm not sure if I'd go (but I'm an introvert so I rarely go to large events). It's possible black people are often around white people simply because there are more whites than blacks in this country, but there are large pockets here where white people don't see black people around their neighborhood. Anyway, all that to say that this is all new to me. I would just hate to have someone be unhappily surprised and feel uncomfortable at my house. I didn't know, so I asked.


OK that's fair. This is refreshingly honest, and very valid considerations.
Can't speak for every black person, but nope I'm not afraid or uncomfortable w/ being minority ever, or cultural difference, and hopefully you can experience the joy of other cultures comfortably one day too.
Anonymous
Post 04/18/2014 23:17     Subject: Question for black people from a white person
Anonymous wrote:OP, black people are pretty much always in the minority so .....no we aren't uncomfortable around a group with majority white people. Highly doubt we are the only minority race that feels comfortable when we are the clear minority in a group either.

I have witnessed white people who become uncomfortable when they move from being in a majority white group to the white minority amongst blacks, Hispanics, middle eastern etc. Sometimes that discomfort turns to fear. Not always the case but it happens. Others are comfortable and you can tell.


Thank you for letting me know. I'll take my DD over to invite them tomorrow morning!
Anonymous
Post 04/18/2014 23:13     Subject: Question for black people from a white person
OP, black people are pretty much always in the minority so .....no we aren't uncomfortable around a group with majority white people. Highly doubt we are the only minority race that feels comfortable when we are the clear minority in a group either.

I have witnessed white people who become uncomfortable when they move from being in a majority white group to the white minority amongst blacks, Hispanics, middle eastern etc. Sometimes that discomfort turns to fear. Not always the case but it happens. Others are comfortable and you can tell.
Anonymous
Post 04/18/2014 23:09     Subject: Question for black people from a white person
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:If I invite you to a BBQ or dinner party or any gathering at my house really, do you want to know ahead of time if you'll be the only black people there? And if so, will you come even if you are?


Do you want to know if you're the only white person at an all black event OP? And will you come if you are? I'm black, and this is a foolishness. What quality of relationships do you have with your friends/acquaintances to have these silly questions?


I grew up in a very white area of Long Island surrounded by other white areas. In the 20 years I lived there, we literally NEVER had a black person over to our house. I've never had a black friend. Been friendly with black people at work enough to go to lunch sometimes, but never had their home or cell phone number. I would be uncomfortable at an all black event. I've never been the minority anywhere. I'm not sure if I'd go (but I'm an introvert so I rarely go to large events). It's possible black people are often around white people simply because there are more whites than blacks in this country, but there are large pockets here where white people don't see black people around their neighborhood. Anyway, all that to say that this is all new to me. I would just hate to have someone be unhappily surprised and feel uncomfortable at my house. I didn't know, so I asked.
Anonymous
Post 04/18/2014 23:04     Subject: Question for black people from a white person
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:If I invite you to a BBQ or dinner party or any gathering at my house really, do you want to know ahead of time if you'll be the only black people there? And if so, will you come even if you are?


Do you want to know if you're the only white person at an all black event OP? And will you come if you are? I'm black, and this is a foolishness. What quality of relationships do you have with your friends/acquaintances to have these silly questions?


I am not the Op but I have mostly lived in a fairly diverse community so there is always a mix of races/ethnicities at any job, BBQ, mix of friends. I don't know what it would be like to be invited to an 'all black event". I have lived in foreign countries where I was the minority and where there was little diversity and in those cases I never felt out of place.
Anonymous
Post 04/18/2014 23:01     Subject: Question for black people from a white person
Anonymous wrote:If I invite you to a BBQ or dinner party or any gathering at my house really, do you want to know ahead of time if you'll be the only black people there? And if so, will you come even if you are?


Do you want to know if you're the only white person at an all black event OP? And will you come if you are? I'm black, and this is a foolishness. What quality of relationships do you have with your friends/acquaintances to have these silly questions?
Anonymous
Post 04/18/2014 22:51     Subject: Question for black people from a white person
^ and just to add I don't mean just black. I would feel the same way if everyone was Native American or East Indian or Arab or etc...
Anonymous
Post 04/18/2014 22:49     Subject: Question for black people from a white person
I don't think it is an idiot question.

I don't know what it says about me but if I was invited to a backyard BBQ and it was all people of a shared race, except for me...I would feel a bit strange. Mostly wondering why they invited me? There might be a reason that would make it make sense and then I would be fine and comfortable but i would be looking for that reason and if it wasn't there, I would feel unsure of myself.
Anonymous
Post 04/18/2014 22:49     Subject: Question for black people from a white person
Black woman here. The thought never occurs to me. Really, I never ever think about it when I'm invited and in most cases I am the only black person there but it doesn't bother me in the slightest.
Anonymous
Post 04/18/2014 22:48     Subject: Question for black people from a white person
This is such a weird post. You are over thinking this OP.
Anonymous
Post 04/18/2014 22:46     Subject: Question for black people from a white person
You are an idiot op!
youngblackdude
Post 04/18/2014 22:46     Subject: Re:Question for black people from a white person
If its food & drinks I'm there..I could careless how many other blacks will be there.(I might bring a few of my guys with me)
Anonymous
Post 04/18/2014 22:45     Subject: Re:Question for black people from a white person
Will short people be there? Because I hate being the shortest.
Anonymous
Post 04/18/2014 22:42     Subject: Question for black people from a white person
If I invite you to a BBQ or dinner party or any gathering at my house really, do you want to know ahead of time if you'll be the only black people there? And if so, will you come even if you are?