I love going to clubs and dancing and even turning other guys on but I've only done it a few times since getting married. And I've never hooked up with anyone in a club, not even when I was single. I've never been into club guys just went for the dancing. My husband has gone with me once or twice. I eventually stopped going because he never wanted to come along.

How late is your wife allowed to stay out?

Keep an eye out for signs of cheating.

She is drinking, flirting, putting herself physically in close proximity to other men - together doesn't show much respect for you.

(1) How is she when she's drinking, (2) What's the mix (married/single, wild/calm) of the friends, and (3) how often does she want to do this?

Seriously, it's just fun with her friends. Promise. I never want to dance with men that aren't my husband (and sometimes not even with him). It's more fun to dance by myself or with girlfriends. She just wants to let her hair down with the girls. Nothing at all to worry about, IMO.

A lot of the time wives get off on guys looking at them. If someone wants to play that game, whatever.

Just go with her. Get a sitter and make it date night.

I really don't like dancing, but I know lots of women who do. It's probably innocent. She could meet men at the gym or grocery store or doctor's office for that matter.

Honestly, if you wife is the kind of person who would cheat on you with some random guy she met at a nightclub, she's gonna cheat in you anyway. I wouldn't worry about it. Most of the time girls out dancing consider most of the men there kinda sleazy and stay away.

How often does she want to do this? If it is a few times a year, no cause for concern. More often, I might wonder...

Female here. I wouldn't worry about a girls night out dancing. Most of the time of my friends and I used to go out dancing, we were not trying to meet men. In fact, usually if men tried to approach one of us, we would sort of dance away from them. Really, she's just going to have fun with her girlfriends.

I used to be a professional dancer. My DH does not like anything but slow dances (because he feels like he can't dance). Sometimes, I want to go dancing. It's fun. So I go with girlfriends, and yes, I dance with them and generally men whose dance abilities match mine, and then when they ask for my number I say "Sorry, I just want to dance" and show my wedding band. It's never an issue. I'm not looking to cheat, just to dance.

Anonymous wrote:I used to do this with my girlfriends when my DH didn't want to go out (he wasn't much of a dancer). If your wife loves you, you have nothing to worry about. I was never tempted to do anything stupid with anyone I met at a club. Not only would it be against everything I believe in, but most of those guys at those clubs are complete losers.

If your wife has trouble controlling her libido while drinking, don't let her go!

This. While most of my friends aren't into the whole dancing/clubbing scene, I have a couple who are so every couple of months we usually go clubbing/dancing since the other times they are more doing what we want. 99% of the time I just dance with my girlfriends and not other guys. That 1% of the time we end up dancing with other guys it is because our single friends have found guys to talk to and they are also in a group. And while we may all "dance together" there is nothing inappropriate about the way you dance.

Then again, we don't really go to the clubs where guys are asking girls to dance sooo

I've known 2 women that often went dancing without their husbands-- both cheated (though not with guys they met when they were out at the clubs). One's H is divorcing her, the other never found out (yet).

I used to do this with my girlfriends when my DH didn't want to go out (he wasn't much of a dancer). If your wife loves you, you have nothing to worry about. I was never tempted to do anything stupid with anyone I met at a club. Not only would it be against everything I believe in, but most of those guys at those clubs are complete losers.

If your wife has trouble controlling her libido while drinking, don't let her go!

On one hand I'm sure my wife isn't looking for anything other than a fun time with friends since she isn't the least bit deceitful and is very up front with her plans. However, I cannot say I'm completely comfortable with her dancing with other men. I mean I don't see guys asking women to dance unless they are attracted to them so while she isn't looking for anything else my suspicion is that they would be. Anyone have experience with a similar situation and how did you feel about it?