It definitely gets better as they get older.

I loved my children from the time they were conceived, but they drove me a little nuts from birth to age 7. Even the "easy" one. The problem was me. Once they each turned 8, something in me relaxed and I started to thoroughly enjoy them.

Anonymous wrote:I've gone through/am going through pretty much what you are, OP. Therapy has helped a lot. What makes it hard for me is that I WANT to work, I just can't get a job. At least not a job that will justify full time daycare, or a job that will help my career. It sucks.

What about a job that will get you out of the house and give you the break you need to be happy? So what if you just break even on daycare? So what if the job isn't a step up the career ladder? If it improves your mental health and makes you a better mother to your children, it's worth it.

Start looking for jobs and daycares. Even if it's only two days a week. It's time for a change in your life.

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Anonymous wrote:Maybe you should go back to work and out the kids in daycare

This, unfortunately.

Why is this unfortunate?

Anonymous wrote:Maybe you should go back to work and out the kids in daycare

This, unfortunately.

I've gone through/am going through pretty much what you are, OP. Therapy has helped a lot. What makes it hard for me is that I WANT to work, I just can't get a job. At least not a job that will justify full time daycare, or a job that will help my career. It sucks.

Have you considered therapy?

This is a phase. It will pass.I realize this is completely weird but I'm happy to offer free babysitting until you get your head back in order, as a form of public service.

Maybe you should go back to work and out the kids in daycare

You need a break as soon as possible and at least once a week. Talk to DH and say you need a mental health day. If he is unable to accommodate you, tell him that you are considering divorce and you will give him full custody. More importantly, MEAN IT.

Women like you, if they are not helped when they ask for it, usually end up harming their children. Don't let that happen to you. DH should listen to you and heed the warning signs. If he doesn't, there's something wrong with him. SEEK HELP. Talk to your DR. Talk to SOMEONE who can help you NOW.

Yea, some days I felt that way. It gets MUCH easier when they get older. Hang in there, and as some PP stated, get some help if you can, and find some way to take a break. I know, easier said than done.

And going back to work is not necessarily the answer if you cannot find a job that pays more than it would cost to pay for daycare for 2 kids (after tax, gas, clothing for work, etc.). Wasn't there a post on the forum about how in 31 states childcare is more expensive than college?

Hire some help

Sounds like you need a break.

Do you have a partner (husband, bf) that could take some time off of work for you to just get a break? You need to take care of yourself and your post sounds like you are just worn out.

Maybe you could schedule some days (once a month, at a minimum) that you could get a day off?

Frankly I would look for some part-time camps for them to participate in this summer. That would also help you get some Me Time.

Sounds like the SAHM thing was the wrong choice.

Good luck.

anyone else experience a very dark period after having children ( and im not talking post-partum depression) but more like, living with 2 toddler-Pre K age children? I cannot do this anymore. My kids ruin everything and im thinking motherhood was the wrong choice for me. I love my kids, but i'm pretty over it. they are both home full time with me and have been since the youngest was 6 months. I'm hoping this feeling subsides after they start full time school programs in the fall, but frankly my parenting has taken a turn for the worse now that my interest and patience is gone. help?