Anonymous wrote:Here's a light one for DCUM: I hate pie (and cobbler and similar fruit-in-a-crust desserts). MIL loves it -- one of her first questions to me when we met, some 8 years ago, was actually "What is your favorite kind of pie?" I told her then, and a few other times early on, that I don't like pie. But I also have picked at it with a smile every time it's served, which is every time we eat with them -- often, weekly -- so she can be forgiven for thinking I like it.
I've decided I'm done: I'm not eating pie anymore. I don't need a different dessert, I just want to abstain without causing a scene or hurt feelings. MIL is one of those people who obsessively asks whether you like something, so a simple "None for me" will get multiple follow up questions.
So, what do I say? And do I say it ahead of the dessert course?
Distract her with, "No thank you but Bill really wants some."
"No thank you but Jane really wants some."
No thank you but can I cut YOU a piece?"