Get tested op.

I don't know about you, but there lies a deeper issue here.

And I think you know what I mean OP.

Time to take a good look at your marriage and see where this thing is heading.

From my vantage point, doesn't look too good.

Sorry.

Bumping this for myself. He also has charges for live jasmin. This all in the aftermath of me finding out about an affair (though not sexual, not that it matters)

Denial is not just a river in Egypt, y'all.

17:49 again here - from the wiki page:

Joining and creating a profile is free; however, users cannot access certain features without a paid membership, which comes in three levels, Silver, Gold and VIP. Members can use the blog system to write their own blogs and respond to others in the community. Free members also have access to regular chat lobbies. Paying users can view others' profiles and access communication services such as e-mail, private chat rooms, webcams, blogging, and a webzine. Members can purchase subscription upgrades for benefits such as higher search rankings. Members can broadcast their webcams publicly to each other. Chat room viewers can page the broadcasting member to ask to initiate a personal chat session.

Sounds like maybe he could be doing just chat as a free member?

anyways, source: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Adult_FriendFinder

Maybe he is just using it to set up a swing date for the two of you.

Thanks pp for being oh so helpful but you have no idea what is going on in our marriage and/or what I have or have not communicated. I was just asking or some info on the site.

17:49 here - my knowledge is a bit rusty since I worked there over 7 years ago. I know you can sign up for free but I think there is limited activity available. Like you can maybe read profiles, but not see all the pictures, not send messages, etc.

What is the deal with women afraid to express their concerns and confront their partners? So you've gone from not speaking unless spoken to, to not speaking unless you can provide proof is that it? Ladies you can't love others unless you love yourselves and sneaking around behind someone putting a freaking case file together disrespects YOU not him. If you don't regard your own thoughts and feelings (no matter how untrue or unfounded) as being worthy of discussion and attention then how can you blame him for stepping all on your feelings and finding some pussy on the side. You can't expect others to fulfill your expectations in a relationship and not be willing to tell them if they aren't being met.

But you can be active on the site without paying right?

I used to work for the company in Palo Alto. People really do use it to hook up - but some people just like it for the dirty pictures. I would guess however that the latter catagory is very very small.

If he isn't being billed - It wouldn't be there. But - it's possible he switched the billing to another account.

OP here. Just wondering if anyone had experience with the site. Maybe I am missing something. Let's just say this isn't his only extramarital activity.

What more proof do you really need?

Seems my husband not only has an account but has a paid membership. Research tells me this gives him access to message people not just look. Any reason a married man would be on there other than the obvious? Think I should join to search out his profile? I don't think he's being billed for it anymore, would his profile still be there?