Yes this was me a year ago.

Found out that my husband had not only no compassion, but if I were ever chronically I'll he would leave me (his words).

We are now divorced, surprisingly, for other reasons.

OP I'm a little confused. You said nothing can be done short of surgery...does he have a medical condition that has weakened his immune system so he gets sick much easier than most people do even though he's taking care of himself?

Has he had a full blood work up done recently?

I have a couple of different suggestions in my head, but my response depends on whether or not he has a medical condition that makes him more susceptible to getting sick/explains why he's sick so much and with joint issues.

Jesus. You guys are really unsympathetic. Very glad I'm not married to any of you.

How about, show some sympathy?

If you don't want to share a bed with him while he is sick, that is understandable. Have him stay in a guest room or if you don't have one, put a twin bed in your room so you have an extra bed for when one of you is sick.

Get him some: vitamin D, zinc, Echinacea, and good probiotics and have him take them daily during cold and flu seasons to prevent and help treat stuff. Is he getting enough sleep? Is he drinking too much? Maybe there are other ways he is compromising his immunity?

Don't have sex with him when he is sick. You don't need to get sick too. Plus, that should help motivate him to take care of himself.

I could have written this. I think I've been on top the past 6 months just to avoid it interrupting my sex life.

Lol, I could have written this post today! I feel like DH has been sick with some of cold almost evey 2-3 weeks.

Does anyone else lose patience with their partner for always being sick (colds, sinus infections, hurting joints...)? Totally takes the romance out of things. He really can't help it when he's on top of me and coughs and can't breath because he's so stuffed up. For years, I've kept quiet so I don't hurt his feelings, but it's getting to be a bit much. Assuming you love this person how do you move past this? And, yes, short of surgery, there's nothing he can do.