You can just turn your router off.

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Anonymous wrote:Change the password and don't give it to them

I just want to turn it off at 9:00PM. They can use them up to then. I promised the phones for grade motivation. I HAD been taking them away at night before --see my post…

It still doesn't make sense. Take the phone away at 9. Are you allowing them on the phone, no wifi until whenever they want?

Why doesn't it make sense? I promised them they could have them at night if their grades went up--I don't want to go back on my promise. If they don't have wifi--at least they can't surf but I would have kept my promise. In other words how can I give it to them and still maintain control over the surfing.

It was a silly promise. You are ok with them staying up until whenever, texting friends, as long as they aren't surfing the net? Be a parent, not a friend.

Will you stop saying this? Being a parent doesn't mean maintaining an insane amount of control over your children until the day you have nothing left to manipulate them with.

OP, do you mean SETTINGS->Wi-Fi->OFF (tap the slider button at the top of the screen)?
That's how you turn off wifi. In our house, we just have the phones docked/charging (in the kitchen) by 9pm.

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Anonymous wrote:Change the password and don't give it to them

I just want to turn it off at 9:00PM. They can use them up to then. I promised the phones for grade motivation. I HAD been taking them away at night before --see my post…

It still doesn't make sense. Take the phone away at 9. Are you allowing them on the phone, no wifi until whenever they want?

Why doesn't it make sense? I promised them they could have them at night if their grades went up--I don't want to go back on my promise. If they don't have wifi--at least they can't surf but I would have kept my promise. In other words how can I give it to them and still maintain control over the surfing.

It was a silly promise. You are ok with them staying up until whenever, texting friends, as long as they aren't surfing the net? Be a parent, not a friend.

You should not have promised this if you weren't prepared to follow through. It sounds like you didn't think they could actually do it, and is tht the message you want to send by backing out now? If I were you, I would give them the phones, with the contingencies that they will lose the privilege if their grades drop, or if you feel that they have been staying up too late and its affecting their attitude or routine.

I think parents on here forget that their job is to raise productive adults. The transition to independence should be gradual, not abrupt on their 18th birthday. Giving them this freedom won't kill them, and you can take it back if they are irresponsible with it. Give them a chance to show you they can do it, just like they did with their grades.

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Anonymous wrote:Change the password and don't give it to them

I just want to turn it off at 9:00PM. They can use them up to then. I promised the phones for grade motivation. I HAD been taking them away at night before --see my post…

It still doesn't make sense. Take the phone away at 9. Are you allowing them on the phone, no wifi until whenever they want?

Why doesn't it make sense? I promised them they could have them at night if their grades went up--I don't want to go back on my promise. If they don't have wifi--at least they can't surf but I would have kept my promise. In other words how can I give it to them and still maintain control over the surfing.

Anonymous wrote:Do people take away their 14's phone at night? Also various kids keep trying to video talk with them at night--sometimes as late as 11--really annoying.

Yes, take away a 14 year olds phone. What do they need a phone for at night?

OP, how is this not going back on your word? You promised them the phone at night? Is it ok that you are giving them the phone but not letting them use the phone? Also, you do realize that if they turn off wifi they can still use the internet with 3g, right?

Do people take away their 14's phone at night? Also various kids keep trying to video talk with them at night--sometimes as late as 11--really annoying.

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Anonymous wrote:Change the password and don't give it to them

I just want to turn it off at 9:00PM. They can use them up to then. I promised the phones for grade motivation. I HAD been taking them away at night before --see my post…

It still doesn't make sense. Take the phone away at 9. Are you allowing them on the phone, no wifi until whenever they want?

Anonymous wrote:Change the password and don't give it to them

I just want to turn it off at 9:00PM. They can use them up to then. I promised the phones for grade motivation. I HAD been taking them away at night before --see my post…

Umm just have them leave their phone in your room. Why would you still want them on the phone late at night, wifi it not?

At bedtime just have them surrender their phones.

Change the password and don't give it to them

I may have painted myself into a corner by promising my sons (12 and 14) that they could have their iPhones on school nights if they brought their grades up to all A's and B's. Well, lo and behold they've done it and now I'm stuck. I really don't want to let them have their phones at night--but is there a way to block their wifi at night and still keep mine on in my room?