LOL to the previous posters.
I had a boyfriend who was often not in the mood. He would say he was too tired or didn't feel well if I tried to initiate, and he rarely initiated himself. I decided based on that and some other stuff (he was overweight, sedentary, found small things overwhelming) that he was depressed and since we hadn't been dating long and he seemed uninterested in changing things, I dumped him, but stayed in touch as friends.
He was diagnosed shortly thereafter with a tumor the size of a football. It was removed and he was like a different person. I was glad he finally figured out what the hell was wrong, but obviously it was too late by then.
