Anonymous wrote:OP, the attraction is because he reminds you of past times that were probably easier and much more fun. Every five years, like clockwork, someone I dated YEARS ago gets in touch to see how I am doing. We are both married with kids and why she does this I have no idea. Be careful. Sometimes the past is the past for a good reason. I also believe that people really don't change.

I can possibly answer this one. Some people are just curious. I often wonder or think of, at randome times, people I knew 'back then'. Sometimes people I dated, sometimes not. If I had a means of contacting them, I might just check in to say 'hi, how are you, what's new in your life, blah blah'. It has no meaning beyond the questions actually asked. Sort of like a Christmas card update, but with a response.

Make sense?

Find out before you go what page he's on to help ease the anxiety (butterflies)

OP, the attraction is because he reminds you of past times that were probably easier and much more fun. Every five years, like clockwork, someone I dated YEARS ago gets in touch to see how I am doing. We are both married with kids and why she does this I have no idea. Be careful. Sometimes the past is the past for a good reason. I also believe that people really don't change.

Anonymous wrote:Op the fact that you don't know if you weren't in a relationship with him makes me think that you aren't as important to him as he is to you. You are acting like a high school girl both in your excitement and in your posting looking for validation from strangers on the internet. Only a guy who doesn't really love you can make you act this way. Be careful with your heart.

We weren't in a romantic relationship, thought I made that clear...

Op the fact that you don't know if you weren't in a relationship with him makes me think that you aren't as important to him as he is to you. You are acting like a high school girl both in your excitement and in your posting looking for validation from strangers on the internet. Only a guy who doesn't really love you can make you act this way. Be careful with your heart.

I'm not married!

He's not either. I was always attracted to him, but he was immature (a player) and my only friend in a small program so I stuck with the friendship rather than romance. He has a very good heart, but never seemed able to get out of the crazy-chicks and bar scene.

He's grown up a little and in some ways maybe not at all. I don't know what to expect, but I know I haven't found a friend like him in years. Someone I just click with and laugh about life. We once sort of lived together when I needed a place to stay. I would cook in exchange for living space and he even tried some new foods beyond his pizza and beer.

OP -- if there is a spark, it can go two ways (assuming you are both available). One way, like a pp noted, is since you were already friends it can go well and very fast and be great. Another way the spark can fly is to start out the same way, but after a few months you may find that there was a reason in college it wasn't romantic. Some people make for great friends, and nowadays that may even be great friends with benefits, but that doesn't necessarily mean they make for great romance.

Anonymous wrote:An old friend, who moved away, invited me to come visit him. We were thick as thieves back in the day but never romantic. Seems odd that now he has gone I suddenly feel butterflies over seeing him. We've never seem to be on the same page regarding if we are just friends, but I find myself hoping that maybe after all these years there is a flame. Is that weird? Has anyone else rediscovered or discovered romance with a good friend years later?

First, I'm hoping you're single, OP. If not, please don't go there.

Second, I've been married 15 years to a friend I knew in law school but was never romantic with. A few years after law school, we got together and it went pretty fast from the first date to the alter because we already knew each other.

A guy I had a HUGE crush on during high school contacted me about 15 years after we graduated and last saw each other. Although we were married to different people, we IMed often and he came to visit me at the resort I was staying at with some girlfriends which was about 30 minutes from where he lived. There was very much a spark but since we were both married it was a good thing I lived 1200 miles away!

An old friend, who moved away, invited me to come visit him. We were thick as thieves back in the day but never romantic. Seems odd that now he has gone I suddenly feel butterflies over seeing him. We've never seem to be on the same page regarding if we are just friends, but I find myself hoping that maybe after all these years there is a flame. Is that weird? Has anyone else rediscovered or discovered romance with a good friend years later?