DH here. DW is not very affectionate. Funny about that saying to look at your MIL to see what your DW will look life..well didn't realize the same holds true for personality traits. There is no physical connection, but the lack of an emotional one is worse - would never have understood how someone could be lonely if they were married. I do now and its hard. Harder then those that have not experienced might think.

He's exactly as affectionate as I want him to be, about 90% of the time.

The other times he's too affectionate or not affectionate enough.

I would be a little weirded out if he called me at work to say he missed my sexy eyes. That's just not how we talk to each other.

He grabs my ass, rubs up against me and breathes heavy on my neck. I then learn he's horny and expects to get laid that night.

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Anonymous wrote:No, no, no, no, no, and no.

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No calls since we both work. He does send a sweet remain or two a week if he is thinking about something I would like. He kisses me every morning before leaving. He calls every night he is on travel as he's getting ready for bed (I do the same). It's enough for me to know hrs thinking about me and I don't need to be showered with attention all day. I get flowers just because (he picked me up from the airport with roses yesterday .

Anonymous wrote:Never affectionate, refuses to hug or touch me. It hurts. He's a good dad, but I wonder where our marriage is going. Sometimes I'm so lonely.

Wanted to add - I am hoping this is just because we have 3 young children and are stressed out. But part of me fears that it will always be this way. DH has had some career setbacks, and I believe he's depressed. Let's hope things get better in our marriage.

Mine does all that physical stuff, but after 2 kids sometimes I need a break where no one touches me

Never affectionate, refuses to hug or touch me. It hurts. He's a good dad, but I wonder where our marriage is going. Sometimes I'm so lonely.

No, no, no, no, no, and no.

Physically very affectionate (although tamed down in public to holding hands/arm around me and stealing some kisses) and compliments me often. Neither DH or I have jobs where we can text or call often, but we always sign off with an I love you etc.
He knows I'm not big into flowers so he doesn't bother with them.

Physically very affectionate. Not one for flowers though.

Anonymous wrote:Mine swings between acting like this, and being withdrawn and ignoring me when he gets depressed. When he's his usual self, he's like this. It's lovely, and what makes me hang in there through the depressions. We've been together for decades.

You sound like a very compassionate person. Your SO is very lucky to have you!

Mine swings between acting like this, and being withdrawn and ignoring me when he gets depressed. When he's his usual self, he's like this. It's lovely, and what makes me hang in there through the depressions. We've been together for decades.

Do they call you everyday with sweet nothings? Do they text you in the middle of the day telling you they miss your sexy eyes? Do they bring you flowers or leave behind a love note just because? Do they hold your hand? Do they grab your butt? Do they kiss you passionately when you walk by?