I was into the punk scene. Bought most of my clothes in thrift shops (we were really poor, so I had to) and supplemented with t-shirts I bought at shows. Dyed my hair weird colors. I took mostly AP and honors classes, had maybe a B+ average. I was also kind of a loner and definitely was not popular. Had very few real friends. I did edgy things on purpose to see what kind of reaction I could get. Looking back I know I was depressed, but I grew up in a dysfunctional and unhealthy home, so survival in and of itself was hard. I was miserable.

Today, I live in beautiful home in a family friendly neighborhood, am very successful at a job filled with Type A personalities, and make a lot of money. I have a successful spouse and well dressed children. I wear suits every day, sometimes even with pearls. But I am still introverted and shy, still socially anxious, and still battle with my moods. Over the years I have learned how to fake it really well so I don't think many people realize the extent of my issues. I still only have a few friends.

I sort of grew up to be my own worst nightmare. I don't really know what to make of that.

Geek/jock. Not in the popular crowd. A step or two down. Totally fine with that, personally.

Oddly, I'm much more successful than most of my high school classmates. I know that sounds like a brag, but it's actually very shocking to me.

Sports jock. And very elite in my sport. Shy otherwiese. I woudl be the same today if I had not narried the class president.

Anonymous wrote:Why do you care about high school crap still??

Ok, in high school I had no patience for this kind to stuff and I guess I don't now either ...

I see Miss Congeniality has joined us.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why do you care about high school crap still??

Ok, in high school I had no patience for this kind to stuff and I guess I don't now either ...

It's a conversation. Seriously, unclench.

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LOL!

I am one who will find it interesting to know how people grew into adulthood.

I was very shy as a kid and majored in public relations!!!! I had to interact and lead all kinds of people. Now I am very out-going.

I am sure there are many of us reading this with kids who are having friendship issues..."Mom, no one will play with me at recess/sit with me at lunch" type stuff and will wonder if their kid will be okay.

Relax, dude....

Anonymous wrote:Why do you care about high school crap still??

Ok, in high school I had no patience for this kind to stuff and I guess I don't now either ...

It's a conversation. Seriously, unclench.

I was pretty "average" in high school. Got decent grades and was in some AP classes, had a group of friends but was friendly to pretty much everyone (and everyone was friendly to me). Did cross country and track.

Anonymous wrote:Why do you care about high school crap still??

Ok, in high school I had no patience for this kind to stuff and I guess I don't now either ...

same. I always find the posts about how people look up their bullies on FB and hope they have a bad life, etc. I was horribly bullied in 7th and 8th grade and I haven't thought about those people in years (except on threads like this) but I don't even remember the names of the 3 girls who were mean to me. Well, I remember the first name of one. It just seems so weird/sad to me that people can't move past what they experienced years ago.

Anonymous wrote:I was an all-rounder, good in everything, not excelling in anything.

Lots of acquaintances and casual friends, and some very close friends.

And I am exactly like this in adult life, though now people don't get to see the whole picture and usually think that I am super capable, super knowledgeable and super networked. I am none of these things, but for some odd reason I am the person in the "know"...

Why do you care about high school crap still??

Ok, in high school I had no patience for this kind to stuff and I guess I don't now either ...

I was an all-rounder, good in everything, not excelling in anything.

Lots of acquaintances and casual friends, and some very close friends.

Anonymous wrote:Goth. But pretty clean-cut otherwise. Didn't drink, no drugs, no tats/piercings. Good grades. Just a bit scary looking and very into my gothy music.

We moved a lot, so not a lot of close friends.

Surprisingly, joined a sorority in college. Still wore/wear a lot of black and have had to struggle to give up my heavy black eyeliner.

Hit the button too soon...

Still into similar music. Go see a lot of live shows and try to look age-appropriate, even when I'm in a mosh pit. Have some great friends, and I thank my husband, who is Mr. Popular for helping become a bit more social than in my teen years.

Goth. But pretty clean-cut otherwise. Didn't drink, no drugs, no tats/piercings. Good grades. Just a bit scary looking and very into my gothy music.

We moved a lot, so not a lot of close friends.

Surprisingly, joined a sorority in college. Still wore/wear a lot of black and have had to struggle to give up my heavy black eyeliner.

I was the leader/organizer in my group of friends but was also friendly with everyone else. I was never picked on, nor did I pick on anyone else.

As an adult I'm pretty much the same person, although a bit shyer after having DS and having to make new mom friends. Always worried about judgement from other moms.

In high school were you a mean girl, Queen bee, class clown, jock, cheerleader, loner, punk rock, geek/nerd, people pleaser,…ect

shy, rowdy, introvert, extrovert...

and what type of person would you say you are as an adult?

As for me, I was a B+ student with some AP classes, band geek (band, color guard, musical theater) as well as a jock (3 seasons of sports) but I didn't have many friends I hung out with after school. Because I stayed after school nearly everyday for something, I knew OF a lot of people. My high school had this one click with 30-40 people who did a lot outside school together. I knew most of them from clubs/sports and yearned to get invited in, but I wasn't. I was home most weekends and through the summer although I remember occasionally 'hanging out' at the mall with one friend.

I think now my mom knew I didn't make friends easily because I was so shy and quiet, so she encouraged me to be involved in sports so I had something to do. Luckily sports came easy for me and I enjoyed them very much! I remember coming home on the bus from away games and sitting by myself looking out the window as everyone else was rowdy and social and wishing I would have that energy level. In that sport, I got the award for being "the quietest on the bus" as others got "hardest worker, most improved, best server awards." :

As an adult, I am still quiet and shy. I want to do things and be with people but I lack confidence to do things by myself - like volunteering at my DCs schools. My husband is a geek and introvert - he's just fine doing things by himself and staying home. I wish I had that inner peace.