Anonymous wrote:OP here. His report cards are "fine." At the elementary level, they do a 1 - 4 scale, so he has mostly 3s & 4s (the highest), with a few 2s thrown in here and there. On grade level for everything, a decent NNAT score, so not on anyone's radar for academic intervention. I am so, so grateful that academics are not a concern (yet). This is only first grade, though. I do see signs of attention and focus issues when he's doing his homework and has trouble sitting for ten minutes and write a few sentences about George Washington, or when he brings home papers that are illegible or scribbled, and I know he wasn't able to focus. Maybe that's typical of most first graders?
So, yes, I get that he doesn't need academic interventions, but as I understand it, the school can provide ABA, social skills training, maybe some OT if his core muscles continue to be a problem. The kids with physical disabilities receive OT through the school, though this isn't academic. My insurance will only provide ABA for kids aged 2 - 6, so private isn't an option unless we pay out of pocket. I have a special ed teacher friend who encouraged me to initiate the process by explaining how a paraeducator would provide social support in the classroom and it sounded like a godsend. I feel it would help him tremendously, as school is 60% of his day. I'm still not certain what support I should be asking for or expecting, so it's difficult to find my voice to advocate for it.
I will call Children's today, talk to my spec ed friend, and continue to read all that I can. Thank you so much, everyone, for your help and advice.
I agree with everyone else here - APPEAL. 7 is
not "too young" as I've had my kids tested at 18-months-old and got a diagnosis of ASD back then. My one son also gets 3's and 4's and a smattering of 2's, and had an extremely high NNAT score. We have to pay out of pocket for ABA therapy for him, unfortunately, but it's been worth it. Getting an IEP means you're going to get extra resources that your child needs to keep being successful in the classroom. The OT can also work on handwriting skills if they continue to be a problem. An IEP will also allow for modified PE instructions to work on skills your child hasn't developed yet. They have ABA at school, but it's nowhere near as intense as private therapy.
With the focus problem, I have one son that has mild ASD but also noticeably ADHD symptoms (lack of attention/focus, paced while talking, couldn't stay on topic, couldn't stay in his seat, frequently daydreamed, wound wander around not knowing what he was doing, etc.) that were confirmed by a private child psychologist after some testing. For him, medication has been an absolute miracle, but we still have an IEP in place for him to deal with his social aspects that he sometimes still lacks.