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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Mine were not like that. They're all different but maybe he has an underlying issue like a food allergy.

I know you're trying to be helpful but this is not a food allergy issue.

Why not? I have suggested this to a few other moms of kids like this and it turned out to be correct. They can cause behavior problems.

Because it isn't - this is a personality issue. (A food allergy may cause grouchiness but it isn't going to cause a child to go from 0 to 100 at the drop of a hat.)

You're completely wrong about this. Food allergies are a good guess for these mercurial personalties. They can indeed go from 0 to 100 because of a food allergy.

Anonymous wrote:Oh yes, it gets better!! But it takes a while. Ages 7-9 they still have the emotional highs and lows (best day ever, worst day of my life -- every day). At 10, they really start to mature. My DS is 12 now and I have to say that the last two years seem SO easy compared to age 6. It's not perfect, but 90% of the time, he is a complete joy to be around. 8% big pain in the ass, and 2% intolerable. That's not bad.

I'd take that any day. He's like the little girl with a curl right in the middle of her forehead. When he is good, he is very, very good and when he is bad, he is horrid.

Oh yes, it gets better!! But it takes a while. Ages 7-9 they still have the emotional highs and lows (best day ever, worst day of my life -- every day). At 10, they really start to mature. My DS is 12 now and I have to say that the last two years seem SO easy compared to age 6. It's not perfect, but 90% of the time, he is a complete joy to be around. 8% big pain in the ass, and 2% intolerable. That's not bad.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Mine were not like that. They're all different but maybe he has an underlying issue like a food allergy.

I know you're trying to be helpful but this is not a food allergy issue.

Why not? I have suggested this to a few other moms of kids like this and it turned out to be correct. They can cause behavior problems.

When DH was a child, he said he had control issues. They were exasperated by food preservatives ... especially sodium nitrites which are found in hot dogs - something he ate often in school. It said after eating a hotdog, it feels like ants are crawling under his skin. When something little happens, he would just blow up!

okay....

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Mine were not like that. They're all different but maybe he has an underlying issue like a food allergy.

I know you're trying to be helpful but this is not a food allergy issue.

Why not? I have suggested this to a few other moms of kids like this and it turned out to be correct. They can cause behavior problems.

When DH was a child, he said he had control issues. They were exasperated by food preservatives ... especially sodium nitrites which are found in hot dogs - something he ate often in school. It said after eating a hotdog, it feels like ants are crawling under his skin. When something little happens, he would just blow up!

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Mine were not like that. They're all different but maybe he has an underlying issue like a food allergy.

I know you're trying to be helpful but this is not a food allergy issue.

Why not? I have suggested this to a few other moms of kids like this and it turned out to be correct. They can cause behavior problems.

Because it isn't - this is a personality issue. (A food allergy may cause grouchiness but it isn't going to cause a child to go from 0 to 100 at the drop of a hat.)

My boy was like that at 6. At 7 1/2 he is much better. Not perfect, but much better.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Mine were not like that. They're all different but maybe he has an underlying issue like a food allergy.

I know you're trying to be helpful but this is not a food allergy issue.

Why not? I have suggested this to a few other moms of kids like this and it turned out to be correct. They can cause behavior problems.

Anonymous wrote:Mine were not like that. They're all different but maybe he has an underlying issue like a food allergy.

I know you're trying to be helpful but this is not a food allergy issue.

Anonymous wrote:Yes, my 5yo is like this. It's exhausting. He just can't seem to learn even a millisecond of patience, or to absorb that screaming won't get him his way. When he's happy it's the best day of ever; whenever something happens he doesn't like, he sobs and it's the worst day ever, worst mother ever etc. I just put him in his room for quiet time after 20 mins of screaming at his sibling for not drawing him the picture he wanted, me for trying to distract him and not knowing the toy he wanted, etc. I'm at the end of my rope.

OP here: Thanks...makes me feel better that it just this way with some kids. Tough going...

Yes, my 5yo is like this. It's exhausting. He just can't seem to learn even a millisecond of patience, or to absorb that screaming won't get him his way. When he's happy it's the best day of ever; whenever something happens he doesn't like, he sobs and it's the worst day ever, worst mother ever etc. I just put him in his room for quiet time after 20 mins of screaming at his sibling for not drawing him the picture he wanted, me for trying to distract him and not knowing the toy he wanted, etc. I'm at the end of my rope.

Keep working on it. Mine is much better at almost 7. One thing a counselor told me was make sure you never cave on boundaries or expectations. Even if it seems logical to you, it's not to them. And they will think they can push to get their way.

My 8 year old DD was like this - 0-100 in 2 seconds flat when things did not go her way. But would calm down (sometimes) immediately and say I was the best mom EVER!

She has gotten better with time. I also talk with her to help her realize how her body feels (green zone - calm, yellow zone - getting angry, red zone - temper tantrum). We talk about calming strategies when she feels her body entering the yellow zone.

If she goes into the red zone I just walk away and go into another room or upstairs. Sometimes she follows me screaming and stomping. I try to remain calm at all costs! After she is calm, I approach her on her level and touch her arms if she'll let me. I say, "I think you were trying to tell me something but I can't hear you when you yell. I'd love to hear what you have to say."

Good luck! and hugs to all the moms with explosive children.

Mine were not like that. They're all different but maybe he has an underlying issue like a food allergy.

Does it get easier? Easily angered from 0 to 10, can hit or kick, says he hates me, his brother, etc. Then 10 minutes later...an angel.

Help.