Anonymous
02/12/2014 11:20
Subject: Dodging nosy questions from relatives re finances
Thanks but we have it under control.
Yes, we know - thanks.
You know - you keep asking me all of these questions. I want you to know that DH and I have a savings plan, a tuition plan, a housing plan, have a handle on our finances etc... We don't want to discuss our personal finances but I do want you to know that you don't have to worry about us.
Then change the subject. Repeat as needed until you get to the point where you say Mom - please stop with the financial questions. If we want your advice we will ask for it.
Yes, we know - thanks.
You know - you keep asking me all of these questions. I want you to know that DH and I have a savings plan, a tuition plan, a housing plan, have a handle on our finances etc... We don't want to discuss our personal finances but I do want you to know that you don't have to worry about us.
Then change the subject. Repeat as needed until you get to the point where you say Mom - please stop with the financial questions. If we want your advice we will ask for it.
Anonymous
02/12/2014 11:10
Subject: Dodging nosy questions from relatives re finances
"Mom, I got this. Leave it alone."
Anonymous
02/12/2014 11:05
Subject: Dodging nosy questions from relatives re finances
"Don't worry, Mom, we're doing just fine."
Anonymous
02/12/2014 10:23
Subject: Dodging nosy questions from relatives re finances
I just smile and say "I don't talk about money its so boring!"
I'm a pretty direct person though (and so are my in laws) - so its not like they are subtly trying to get information out of me, they are point blank asking. Which I think is very rude.
So I respond in a very direct way (but with a friendly tone).
They still ask, but they are acclimated now that they won't get an answer.
I'm a pretty direct person though (and so are my in laws) - so its not like they are subtly trying to get information out of me, they are point blank asking. Which I think is very rude.
So I respond in a very direct way (but with a friendly tone).
They still ask, but they are acclimated now that they won't get an answer.
Anonymous
02/12/2014 10:21
Subject: Dodging nosy questions from relatives re finances
We're hosting my side of the family soon and while they're well-intentioned, they can get a little nosy about our finances; the last few visits I've been uncomfortable with the random unsolicited advice about savings targets, when it would be good for us to buy a house, how DH & I should be filing our taxes, whether we should pay for parking, etc. I try to be vague but they seem to always get more info out of DH than me and I just would like to cut the subject off. We don't have anything to hide, our finances are in good order, but I just don't feel comfortable discussing it in detail with my family. We have somewhat different values when it comes to money and we also face different circumstances (my other siblings are still on the parents' car insurance & phone plans) so their advice can be a little out of touch and it just comes off as if they're worried about us, unnecessarily, and think we should come back onto the family accounts.
How do you cut this sort of thing off? I don't want to be rude but it's just kind of condescending to be treated like we must be doing it wrong since we're doing it on our own.
How do you cut this sort of thing off? I don't want to be rude but it's just kind of condescending to be treated like we must be doing it wrong since we're doing it on our own.