This is 16:48 again. If my child told me to shut up, the first thing that would happen is that she would get the full force of my disapproval. She would get my freezing stare and cold voice, "What. Did. You. Say? Is that how you speak to each other in this house?" I am not at all a yeller so the cold, angry, freeze is tremendously effective. She would then immediately lose every privilege that she holds dear.

1. Her iPhone would go on the counter until further notice.
2. She would lose all screen time.
3. Her free time would be replaced by chores that she does not like.
4. All requested outings would be denied for some determined period of time.

Basically, it would suck to be her for a period of time. Generally speaking, she knows I mean business and I would be really surprised if she ever cursed at me or was disrespectful to me. She questions me and is encouraged to do so, but she is not disrespectful.

Telling anyone to shutup is disrespectful.

"I understand you're upset, but speaking to someone like that is not acceptable" then consequence. Grounded, taking away privileges, whatever works best.

Anonymous wrote:If my kid told me to shut up, without cursing, I would end her. That kind of disrespect is unacceptable. I don't tell her to shut up. I don't tell my husband to shut up. And sometimes, I really, really, really want to.

I use a sh8t ton of profanity. Like an embarrassing amount. I would never punish for profanity alone. I told my 11 year old that Demi Lovato was coming for dinner and she said, "Get the fuck outta here!" I would not bat an eyelash.

I would punish for the attitude, not the profanity. She once cursed out of frustration in her aftercare program at her parochial school. I punished her for the attitude and poor sportsmanship but not for her use of the word f*ck. She used it judiciously and in an appropriate situational context, but it displayed her poor attitude and bad sportsmanship and I couldn't have that.

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ok. Interesting perspective. What WOULD you do, other than "end" her?

If my kid told me to shut up, without cursing, I would end her. That kind of disrespect is unacceptable. I don't tell her to shut up. I don't tell my husband to shut up. And sometimes, I really, really, really want to.

I use a sh8t ton of profanity. Like an embarrassing amount. I would never punish for profanity alone. I told my 11 year old that Demi Lovato was coming for dinner and she said, "Get the fuck outta here!" I would not bat an eyelash.

I would punish for the attitude, not the profanity. She once cursed out of frustration in her aftercare program at her parochial school. I punished her for the attitude and poor sportsmanship but not for her use of the word f*ck. She used it judiciously and in an appropriate situational context, but it displayed her poor attitude and bad sportsmanship and I couldn't have that.

Anonymous wrote:I'm still floored at our 12 year old neighbor who says this like "motherf-ing b-tch" on askfm. It is entirely classless and contributes to a culture of disrespect to themselves and others when we allow this kind of language.

But if the OP's kid were my kid and it were directed AT me? Slap clear across the face, and I've never had to do that. Bug that would be the first and last time, I'm sure.

Well that's not a nice way to teach your kid that what they are saying is offensive. I already posted that my DC (10) has picked up a lot of bad words at school and doesn't always realize JUST HOW offensive they are until I react to them. Geez, give your kid a chance to change PP.

I'm still floored at our 12 year old neighbor who says this like "motherf-ing b-tch" on askfm. It is entirely classless and contributes to a culture of disrespect to themselves and others when we allow this kind of language.

But if the OP's kid were my kid and it were directed AT me? Slap clear across the face, and I've never had to do that. Bug that would be the first and last time, I'm sure.

My DC has picked up a lot of bad words this year in school. Be sure your DC knows just how offensive it is.

It depends. Where did she learn it? If this is a phrase she would hear at home, then there needs to be a discussion and some new family rules. If it isn't, then I'd ground her.

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Anonymous wrote:At age 10?

My DD is 10, almost 11, and I don't mind if she says "That's bullshit" like she did in response to learning about what's going on in Sochi. But for shut the f*ck up? I'd have her write 100 times "I will not curse at anyone in an authority position."

Thx not much better but the H word not F

It would still stand, as a punishment. I don't mind the use of the word hell. To me the issue is a child telling an adult what to do.

Anonymous wrote:At age 10?

My DD is 10, almost 11, and I don't mind if she says "That's bullshit" like she did in response to learning about what's going on in Sochi. But for shut the f*ck up? I'd have her write 100 times "I will not curse at anyone in an authority position."

Thx not much better but the H word not F

Grounded for a week. No electronics.

At age 10?

My DD is 10, almost 11, and I don't mind if she says "That's bullshit" like she did in response to learning about what's going on in Sochi. But for shut the f*ck up? I'd have her write 100 times "I will not curse at anyone in an authority position."

Ten year old boy? If directed at you like "shut the blank up." thx