daily. mostly morning phone calls during his drive to work.

maybe twice a day on wknds.

He calls her once every two week. I call her once a week. His conversation runs for 3 minutes. Mine for at least 1/2 hour. So she prefers to talk to me, because I give her details about my kids, DH, exchange recipes and get news about our relatives.

She is sweet and nice. As she is getting older she is having a lot of medical issues, though she never complains or talks about it.

She did a great job in raising my DH. She only has sons, and misses not having a daughter.

Its not that we have not have our ups and downs - but since I am the eldest DIL, I feel that she feels a degree of comfort and informality with me, that she does not feel with the younger DIL.

I wish my DH paid a bit more attention to her though. He seems to feel as if what I do is enough. I know that she wants to hear DHs voice more than mine. DH seems clueless about it.

Every day. Multiple times a day. She's a lonely, controlling b$$ch.

My MIL is currently back in her home country and they talk once a week.

He calls his parents once a week.

Anonymous wrote:Once a week via email or phone call. His mom isn't really the talkative type on the phone. More of a "hi, how are you? how are things? how is my grandson, etc". He talks to his dad on the phone once a week.

woops that should say he talks to his mom once every other week.

Once a week via email or phone call. His mom isn't really the talkative type on the phone. More of a "hi, how are you? how are things? how is my grandson, etc". He talks to his dad on the phone once a week.

Anonymous wrote:Almost daily or every other. They live on opposite coasts.

eww

creepy

When MIL was alive, maybe once a month.

I wish he called her more often. Now that I have a son, I'm far more aware of her feelings and how DH treats her. He treats her well, by the way, I just think she'd appreciate a phone call more than once a week.

Very rarely. She allows her daughters to walk all over her and complains to DH. It gets old after awhile.

As little as possible. He calls her more regularly now that she is failing, but he has never enjoyed talking to her or spending time with her. My father calls his mother a couple times per week on the drive home from work so it is a finite amount of time that he has to talk to her.

When MIL was alive, she called on Sunday and they had a 20 minute conversation. She lived out of state.

FWIW, she was a nice lady and I liked her.

Almost daily or every other. They live on opposite coasts.

How often does your husband talk to your MIL? Or, if you are male, how often do you talk to your mom? Who typically initiates the conversation?

Just curious what the norm is in most families--particularly when the relationship is a long-distance one.