Anonymous
Post 02/07/2014 08:49     Subject: Re:Relatives who act inappropriately at a funeral? My brother tends to have too much to drink
^^ not the minister said he would be glad it was over. That was me to myself.
Anonymous
Post 02/07/2014 08:48     Subject: Re:Relatives who act inappropriately at a funeral? My brother tends to have too much to drink
Thank you for your kind thoughts PPs. Brother already had a rant with family members and our minister. Minister said I am a grown man and I have heard a lot. But that goes beyond. I will be so glad when this is over.
Anonymous
Post 02/05/2014 09:41     Subject: Relatives who act inappropriately at a funeral? My brother tends to have too much to drink
Anonymous wrote:Be prepared to beat his ass if he acts like one, problem solved.


Because family violence ALWAYS makes any situation better.
Anonymous
Post 02/05/2014 09:28     Subject: Relatives who act inappropriately at a funeral? My brother tends to have too much to drink
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:He's not your responsibility. Release what you cannot control. In the end it reflects on him, not you.

+1


+2


+3. If he makes a fool of himself, that's on him, not you.


And another in agreement.

Also OP - have a plan for yourself in advance to get away from the drama if it happens. Know how you'll extricate yourself (and your family if need be), either to another room or another location altogether. You aren't responsible for his actions and you don't have to stick around to feel any more upset by them than necessary.

My condolences on your loss.
Anonymous
Post 02/05/2014 09:28     Subject: Re:Relatives who act inappropriately at a funeral? My brother tends to have too much to drink
Weddings and funerals are the only times some families get together. If it doesn't come up then, it doesn't come up.

OP, you shouldn't do anything. Your brother is an adult. He is responsible for his own behavior.

If he acts like an ass, and you are embarrassed, you can tell your other family members that you are sorry that he acted like an ass. That way they know you don't approve or agree with him.
Anonymous
Post 02/05/2014 09:20     Subject: Re:Relatives who act inappropriately at a funeral? My brother tends to have too much to drink
Hurtful to others who would like a quiet respectful funeral. It is not a party.
Anonymous
Post 02/05/2014 07:03     Subject: Relatives who act inappropriately at a funeral? My brother tends to have too much to drink
Be prepared to beat his ass if he acts like one, problem solved.
Anonymous
Post 02/05/2014 06:31     Subject: Relatives who act inappropriately at a funeral? My brother tends to have too much to drink
Anonymous wrote:Also, bringing up "issues," while uncomfortable, may be what your family needs. If your brother has to get drunk to do it, that speaks to how repressed your family really is. What is the problem with bringing up issues, OP?

I can see that he makes people uncomfortable. But a funeral is about emotional release. As others have pointed out, it's him acting this way, not you. Express your emotions as you choose and let others do the same.


It's not a group therapy session. It's a funeral. And it sounds like OP's brother just gets drunk and antagonizes people he doesn't like...not sure where you're getting the "repressed family" thing from.
Anonymous
Post 02/05/2014 05:47     Subject: Relatives who act inappropriately at a funeral? My brother tends to have too much to drink
Also, bringing up "issues," while uncomfortable, may be what your family needs. If your brother has to get drunk to do it, that speaks to how repressed your family really is. What is the problem with bringing up issues, OP?

I can see that he makes people uncomfortable. But a funeral is about emotional release. As others have pointed out, it's him acting this way, not you. Express your emotions as you choose and let others do the same.
Anonymous
Post 02/05/2014 01:04     Subject: Relatives who act inappropriately at a funeral? My brother tends to have too much to drink
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:He's not your responsibility. Release what you cannot control. In the end it reflects on him, not you.

+1


+2


+3. If he makes a fool of himself, that's on him, not you.
Anonymous
Post 02/05/2014 00:54     Subject: Relatives who act inappropriately at a funeral? My brother tends to have too much to drink
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:He's not your responsibility. Release what you cannot control. In the end it reflects on him, not you.

+1


+2
Anonymous
Post 02/04/2014 23:24     Subject: Relatives who act inappropriately at a funeral? My brother tends to have too much to drink
Anonymous wrote:He's not your responsibility. Release what you cannot control. In the end it reflects on him, not you.

+1
Anonymous
Post 02/04/2014 23:23     Subject: Relatives who act inappropriately at a funeral? My brother tends to have too much to drink
He's not your responsibility. Release what you cannot control. In the end it reflects on him, not you.
Anonymous
Post 02/04/2014 23:20     Subject: Relatives who act inappropriately at a funeral? My brother tends to have too much to drink
Ask him not to come
Anonymous
Post 02/04/2014 23:04     Subject: Relatives who act inappropriately at a funeral? My brother tends to have too much to drink
Relatives who act inappropriately at a funeral?
My brother tends to have too much to drink at these events and then he brings up his issues at the get together. Very worried because this is a funeral and he is mad at my cousin (god daughter of the deceased) what to do? I am worried.