Anonymous wrote:Our 3rd grader knows about our referral.
We told him that we will do our best to put a good application together but that other people will make the decision about his school- kind of what you do when you apply for college. He might stay at his current school or at the other school but either way, he will be just fine.

I did have him read over the parent questionnaire and the referral form. I asked him to make sure it was accurate and described him well.
He said "It's accurate, but there's a flaw over here." He pointed to a typo. Lol. Thank goodness I had him check it.

We didn't show him his WISC scores though. We'll save that for another time.

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Our 3rd grader knows about our referral.
We told him that we will do our best to put a good application together but that other people will make the decision about his school- kind of what you do when you apply for college. He might stay at his current school or at the other school but either way, he will be just fine.

I did have him read over the parent questionnaire and the referral form. I asked him to make sure it was accurate and described him well.
He said "It's accurate, but there's a flaw over here." He pointed to a typo. Lol. Thank goodness I had him check it.

We didn't show him his WISC scores though. We'll save that for another time.

My ds knows that in third grade some kids go to this school and some kids go to that school. I told him that the county decides where he will go. That's all he needs to know.

Anonymous wrote:Of course not. He will only know when/if he is accepted. Why would I tell him that he "might" be found eligible when there's a chance he might not? He's 7 years old. This is so far off his radar (as it should be) even though his older brother is in AAP.

I'm hoping it is b/c he'd have to change schools. If he won't, why would you say anything to him ever?

Of course not. He will only know when/if he is accepted. Why would I tell him that he "might" be found eligible when there's a chance he might not? He's 7 years old. This is so far off his radar (as it should be) even though his older brother is in AAP.

Anonymous wrote:Of course, why wouldn't you be honest with your kids?

"Honest"? What did you say?

Of course, why wouldn't you be honest with your kids?

I did not tell DD anything until she was admitted. She heard about it at orientation.

In DD's friends, it was not talked about. This is at a big center in Vienna.

I tried to downplay it and not talk about it with DD, but eventually had to explain why she went for WISC testing.

100% am not telling my kids now or in the future. The only way I would say anything is if my child had to change schools (which he won't as we're at a center).

No. I would wait until May when decisions come back and then tell your DC if he/she is accepted. If your DC proactively brings it up before then, then you can explain. Even in pool kids don't get in. I'd wait to see what happens and then decide how best to discuss it.

the kids all discuss this. it is talked about all over the bus and by the kids. it is naive when some parents say oh she just knows she goes to a different school b/c she learns different the kids mostly all know. if now right now, eventually.
some of the left behind kids then feel awful. I have heard kids say "i'm not smart enough" etc. my older is in aap, but we teach him in everything there will always be kids better, smarter, more athletic etc. sometimes kids work harder, sometimes strengths are different. kids understand this. it's best you talk about it to avoid having your kid running around saying he's smarter than the rest or feeling bad if not in the program.

Anonymous wrote:Yes, mine knows. He complains enough that school is too easy and he wants something more challenging. He is excited about the possibility of going to another school next year.

Wow.

Yes, mine knows. He complains enough that school is too easy and he wants something more challenging. He is excited about the possibility of going to another school next year.

Does you child know about your referral? or are you not telling your child?

If you are telling your child, how did you explain it?

TIA!