I was playing around with the facebook settings once, just to see what the options are (I am like that)....I changed to it's complicated....slept on the couch that night.

I've been dating my guy for 5 months (we are exclusive) and have yet to even friend him. I'm not hiding anything - close friends, family and coworkers all know about or have met him, but I don't need my 2nd cousin (or his) commenting on our relationship, or pictures of us, etc. when things are good or if they go south.

Anonymous wrote:I would definitely wait.

My sister just met a new guy online. They talked/emailed for a couple of weeks and went on two dates this past weekend. She then sent a "friend suggestion" to both of us on FB. As of this morning they are Facebook official.

Ridiculous.

Ugh. The one that really irks me is "It's Complicated". Why do we need to know that???

Anonymous wrote:just be upfront over it. say...my facebook is for my close friends and family. and leave it at that.

if people were upfront over things, a lot of shit would be much easier.

^This. FB is sooooo 2013.

I would definitely wait.

My sister just met a new guy online. They talked/emailed for a couple of weeks and went on two dates this past weekend. She then sent a "friend suggestion" to both of us on FB. As of this morning they are Facebook official.

Ridiculous.

Anonymous wrote:just be upfront over it. say...my facebook is for my close friends and family. and leave it at that.

if people were upfront over things, a lot of shit would be much easier.

+100

Anonymous wrote:The only motivation that I can think of is to snoop. If you're comfortable with him seeing the private information that you have on your page, then fine, but I personally would not FB friend someone after one date, especially if he wasn't introduced to me by mutual friends.

You also have to remember to defriend him if things don't work out, unless you have something else to gain from one another, ie. professionally.

This partially depends on age. I'm 30 and some of my guy friends sent one to every girl they met in our 20s. Some people think its akin to texting. I, on the other hand, am not cool at all with giving someone access to the people in my life and a snapshot of the past 10 years. I've debated this with guy friends and we've just had to agree to disagree.

FYI- I shutter to think of how the dating scene will be for our daughters.

No. No. No.

The only motivation that I can think of is to snoop. If you're comfortable with him seeing the private information that you have on your page, then fine, but I personally would not FB friend someone after one date, especially if he wasn't introduced to me by mutual friends.

You also have to remember to defriend him if things don't work out, unless you have something else to gain from one another, ie. professionally.

just be upfront over it. say...my facebook is for my close friends and family. and leave it at that.

if people were upfront over things, a lot of shit would be much easier.

I try not to do the Facebook friend thing until I'm regularly dating a guy, because it feels like sort of a cheat. Like it makes you prematurely intimate without having to put in the work. (I've only been FB friends with one of the guys I've dated in the last 5 years, and that was because we friended each other and THEN started dating.)

FB can make a new relationship hard - if they're having public interactions with women you don't know, you can find yourself wondering what is up.

Anonymous wrote:I met someone on match. Met once. Planned to get together again. We will I think. In the meantime he friended me on Facebook. Seems a little premature to be Facebook friends, no? Or do people think about these things differently? I am not all the active on FB and mostly post kid pictures. Don't want to be rude and ignore the request....

Just ignore it and if he asks later say you never use it.

I met someone on match. Met once. Planned to get together again. We will I think. In the meantime he friended me on Facebook. Seems a little premature to be Facebook friends, no? Or do people think about these things differently? I am not all the active on FB and mostly post kid pictures. Don't want to be rude and ignore the request....