For a first time trip I'd use a Disney travel agent who can help you sift thought everything. We also use touringplans..com great site with crowd calendars. Impossible go whe it's least crowded and stay on the monorail which makes your life that much easier. Don't try and do everything, got to the parks early in the morning and hit some high,iChat's, take in the sites, shows, parades and then be backnatyour hotel to take a nap, swim in e pool, etc., after dinner, if you child is up for it go back to a park for a little bit to see it all lit up. Magic kingdom is e best the first time, small kids. Our first time we spend 4 days there, our daughter loved it and did the same few rides over and over again and we had fun going with the flow and enjoying what she enjoyed. If you would like a travel agent, a good friend of mine from college has a agency and her services are free, she's helped is 3 times, even getting us discounts after initial reservation, her name is elyssa at
http://mickeytravels.com/elyssa. Have fun!