What about subbing at a school? I know a mom who subs at my son's parochial school and seems to like the work.

I work, I'll probably always work. I'm the daughter of a working mom of four kids. Women in my family have always worked as far back as we can track so the staying at home thing is very foreign to me. It sounded somewhat romantic until I had my maternity leave and realized it was not for me.

But in your situation, earning so little with presumably a masters degree while I have two little ones in full time care, I'd probably switch to some part time gig or pursue one of my small business ideas.

He's human? Lady, stop making excuses for him. He should support you in what you want to do.

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Anonymous wrote:Why not find a job you like better? Since the pay doesn't seem to matter, you have a lot of choices/flexibility.

I think the only jobs I could get if I left my industry (teaching) would be administrative asst. type things. Or data entry. If I wanted to do anything more interesting, I'd have to go back to school but I don't have the money or time for that.

Your DH makes $250-$500k/year and you can't afford to go back to school? Part-time? Come on.

Well I don't know how supportive he would be. He really wants me to be a SAHM. But it's fine with him if I stay in teaching.

As someone who also thinks it's important for adults to have the skills to support themselves, this attitude in a DH would really, really bother me. Basically, what you're saying is that it's fine with him if you do your thing, as long as it doesn't inconvenience him in any way and you're home to pick up the kids and cook dinner?

Well it's a bit more complicated than that. Part of it is that I already had an expensive education which he helped me pay off. Part of it is that if I went back to school, even part time, we'd still need childcare. Our nanny and preschool are expensive. Part of it is that we're saving a lot for our children's educations and (I'm assuming this) his opinion that that goal is more important. Part of it is his belief that I won't find being an admin. asst. any less stressful or more enjoyable than being a teacher. Part of it is his assertion that it will be virtually impossible to find a job teaching college or as a librarian in our area (this part is important because his job obviously takes priority) if I went back for my master's in my subject area or library science (the two things I was considering).

But yes part of it is what you're implying. He's human. I'm sure he wouldn't be happy if things changed and I had less time to spend on the kids/dinner/house etc.

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Anonymous wrote:Why not find a job you like better? Since the pay doesn't seem to matter, you have a lot of choices/flexibility.

I think the only jobs I could get if I left my industry (teaching) would be administrative asst. type things. Or data entry. If I wanted to do anything more interesting, I'd have to go back to school but I don't have the money or time for that.

Your DH makes $250-$500k/year and you can't afford to go back to school? Part-time? Come on.

Well I don't know how supportive he would be. He really wants me to be a SAHM. But it's fine with him if I stay in teaching.

As someone who also thinks it's important for adults to have the skills to support themselves, this attitude in a DH would really, really bother me. Basically, what you're saying is that it's fine with him if you do your thing, as long as it doesn't inconvenience him in any way and you're home to pick up the kids and cook dinner?

Can you get a part time teaching job? Perhaps one that's not in the classroom , ie a specialist position? Or even a IA/teacher assistant job? That way you'd a) still be employed and b) working in your field in case you find you need to go back full time

I would probably quit if I had large life and disability policies on husband, adequate savings and at least a plan if I needed to go back to work some day.

Why not apply as a teacher for community college? I know it's hard to break in, but nice you do you have a much more doable work load.

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Anonymous wrote:Why not find a job you like better? Since the pay doesn't seem to matter, you have a lot of choices/flexibility.

I think the only jobs I could get if I left my industry (teaching) would be administrative asst. type things. Or data entry. If I wanted to do anything more interesting, I'd have to go back to school but I don't have the money or time for that.

Your DH makes $250-$500k/year and you can't afford to go back to school? Part-time? Come on.

Well I don't know how supportive he would be. He really wants me to be a SAHM. But it's fine with him if I stay in teaching.

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Anonymous wrote:Why not find a job you like better? Since the pay doesn't seem to matter, you have a lot of choices/flexibility.

I think the only jobs I could get if I left my industry (teaching) would be administrative asst. type things. Or data entry. If I wanted to do anything more interesting, I'd have to go back to school but I don't have the money or time for that.

Your DH makes $250-$500k/year and you can't afford to go back to school? Part-time? Come on.

Look for another job. Agree with the advice you were given while growing up to always be able to support yourself and not drop out of the work force even if you have a good marriage and a spouse with a good job. Too easy to go into poverty if caught off by surprise by death or divorce.

I would ask myself what job I would do if I could do anything. And then I would try to get there: go back to school, take an entry-level position to break into a field, etc.

This is an opportunity to figure out what you want to do with your life (outside of raising your family) and to go after it.

Anonymous wrote:Why not find a job you like better? Since the pay doesn't seem to matter, you have a lot of choices/flexibility.

I think the only jobs I could get if I left my industry (teaching) would be administrative asst. type things. Or data entry. If I wanted to do anything more interesting, I'd have to go back to school but I don't have the money or time for that.

Why not find a job you like better? Since the pay doesn't seem to matter, you have a lot of choices/flexibility.

To be perfectly honest, my job is stressful and not all that enjoyable. I make ~44k a year. My skills and training would not be easily transferable I don't think. My husband makes a lot more (~250k base with bonuses that can be well over 100% of his base). We have 2 kids with nanny/preschool. Anyway, whenever I complain about some aspect of my job, he tells me to just quit because we don't need my income. Sometimes I am sorely tempted. But when I was growing up, it was pounded into my head that no matter what happens, I need to be able to support myself (and whatever children I had). Never depend on a man, etc. etc. I trust my husband and we have a good marriage. Whenever I get tempted to quit my job though, I google SAHM threads, read the warning stories, and get scared.

Anyway, wwyd? If you were in a job and industry you didn't enjoy.