Put on your big girl pants
And tell your aunt you appreciate the bed but the
You plan to just use the mattress and should you deliver the
Frame back to her or put it in storage in your
Cousins house.

I find it hard to imagine I the last 3 years you
Could save 100 bucks to go buy a
Twin bed set. You can get a twin bed mattress for
50-60 bucks. Places will get rid of non
Matching twin mattresses and left overs.

Anonymous wrote:You don't even have a fully functioning bed frame, right? Since there is no box spring? Just say given that you'd rather just use the mattress and either return the frame to them or put the frame in storage. Be very thankful.

That's right. There's no way I can fit a queen size box spring up the staircase and the mattress needs something underneath it on the frame or it will sag, so I would have to buy/make slats. Thanks.

Anonymous wrote:You seem awfully picky for someone who's been sleeping on a piece of foam!!!

I don't make much money at my full-time job and am also in school full-time, so I have to be really careful about how I spend my money. I've found all my furniture off craigslist over the past couple years and fixed it up/painted it all myself. In that time, I haven't been able to find a clean mattress/frame that was in my budget (which is basically free - 50 bucks) so I stuck with the foam. Part of the reason I jumped at the offer for a free bed.

I realize I'm being picky, but I spend a good 40 hours a week in my room doing schoolwork. It needs to be a space I enjoy being in.

You don't even have a fully functioning bed frame, right? Since there is no box spring? Just say given that you'd rather just use the mattress and either return the frame to them or put the frame in storage. Be very thankful.

You seem awfully picky for someone who's been sleeping on a piece of foam!!!

The headboard covers the bottom corner of a window, which is annoying, but because of the layout of the room the bed cannot go anywhere else.

Sorry, I meant the headboard covers the bottom corner of the window.

This is OP. The headboard is massive. It's queen size, and takes up half the wall its on. The other half of the wall holds my desk, which looks totally dwarfed in comparison. The frame covers the bottom corner of a window, which is annoying, but because of the layout of the room the bed cannot go anywhere else. It comes almost a foot out from the wall and is shoulder height.

It's just massive and doesn't fit the scale of the room at all (the bed takes up about a third of the floor space). It is very similar to the one in this picture, mirror and everything, but is bright yellow pine (all my other furniture is stained black, or painted white and grey).



Thank you to those of you that are suffering through this with me. I realize it is insignificant, but I promise if you could see it in person you would understand.

The storage space is a huge closet, not an attic or basement or anything. I would be fine renting a uhaul and driving it back to my aunt, if she would be okay with me just keeping the mattress.

I am the kind of person who is very cautious to never make others uncomfortable, which hopefully is a testament to how bad this frame is. I need it gone.

Is there a way you could alter the headboard to make it match your style? Fabric coverings or anything?

How big is the headboard in comparison to the room? If it hogs up most of the room I can see your point and I would tell the cousin that since you don't have the boxspring it doesn't make sense to keep the headboard since you can't really use it anyway. I'd blame it on the size of the room and the boxspring issue and not bring aesthetics into it. If the room is plenty big enough for it, and you're able to use it safely and w/o too much extra work and jury rigging, I'd just suck it up and keep it there. It's only 6 months, it's not that long in the grand scheme of things.

Uhaul, not unsullied

Keep the mattress and use how you want. Where is this storage place? I wouldn't necessarily want my furniture in a basement or attic or random storage place. Ask aunt if it is ok for you to put it in th storage place and offer to rent unsullied for day and drive it back if not. Otherwise keep it.

Getting along with relatives is much more important than having your bedroom furniture match at age 21. Prioritize.

Anonymous wrote:You live in a rented room, who gives a shit about furniture matching. Why don't you focus on getting a home, then you can furnish it.

I'm 21... how is "focus on getting a home" useful advice? And I actually explained exactly why I care about furniture matching, so why don't you just go suck an egg.

You live in a rented room, who gives a shit about furniture matching. Why don't you focus on getting a home, then you can furnish it.

I recently moved in with my cousin (we are early 20's). I haven't seen her mom (my aunt) in years since her and my uncle divorced over 10 years ago and my uncle is the blood relative. I have been sleeping on a piece of foam on the floor for the past 3 years and my aunt graciously offered to long-term loan me a bed that she had been keeping in storage. I stupidly said yes sight-unseen, because the prospect of having a real bed was just so exciting. So, they made the 4 hour round trip to drop it off today while I was at work... The mattress is really nice, but they couldn't fit the box spring up the stair case and the frame/headboard is a HUGE PINE MONSTROSITY. I am seriously kicking myself for not asking what it looked like beforehand - so dumb of me. Being happy with the way my bedroom looks is important to me - I don't own a lot of furniture (see piece of foam on the floor for years) but the pieces I do own for my bedroom match and are a very different style from pine monstrosity.

If I keep the frame/headboard, I will hate it for the next 6+ months I'm going to be living here. I will also have to find/make slats since the box spring couldn't fit upstairs. I could just use the mattress and keep the frame/headboard in storage, but I feel like my cousin might be upset (we are close but she has little tolerance for bratty behaviour, which I'm pretty sure this is). I don't think she'll get the whole "matching furniture/aesthetic" thing. If I did this, I'd just build a platform to keep the mattress on. This is the option I really want to take - keep the mattress and move the frame to storage - but I don't want to offend my cousin/aunt.

I realize I'm probably going to be scolded for all this, and trust me I'm kicking myself for not thinking about this scenario beforehand. But I've been living with roommates since I was 18 and my room is my only private space in the world. I want to be happy in it. How can I get this thing out of my room and keep everyone happy?