Anonymous wrote:My DH vaguely knows of some long term relationships I had before him - we got married at 33. He has met some of my exes and I have met some of his because we are acquaintances who run into each other through mutual friends a few times a year. My DH however has never asked me details of those relationships or how many people I've had sex with before him.

And we talk about our childhood all the time - Christmas memories, traditions, favorite vacations, etc. We're about to have a child and since we started trying we've been talking about the type of priorities we'd like to have, the type of experiences we'd like to provide.

My DH vaguely knows of some long term relationships I had before him - we got married at 33. He has met some of my exes and I have met some of his because we are acquaintances who run into each other through mutual friends a few times a year. My DH however has never asked me details of those relationships or how many people I've had sex with before him.

My DH has asked me multiple things, but he's pretty damn nosey. And I've only had a couple of relationships prior to ours.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:He may be afraid of telling you his past

+1

+2 or he really doesn't care and probably believes you feel the same.

Anonymous wrote:He may be afraid of telling you his past

+1

He may be afraid of telling you his past

He asked early on in the relationship. He had wanted to marty a virgin

My DH doesn't really want to know about my past relationships. I've shared some things with him, but he doesn't really want to know and never asks.
We do talk a lot about our childhoods, but both have psych backgrounds so that comes naturally to us.

My husband has not ever really asked much about past relationships outside of a few questions and "sharing talk" in the dating period. He's not a jealous person and I don't think he lingers on the past in that manner. We've talked a lot about growing up.

I certainly would not think it appropriate of him to ask my friends.

Does he ask about your feelings? Do you have a "best friend" relationship?

Details? Asked your friends? I just noticed that my husband never did, well once when dating why I was divorced. I don't remember exactly, I think even then I was the one who shared that I was married before to clear the air. We met on match.com so it was listed on my post. We've been married ten years now. I don't know why it hit me now to notice. I had asked him a question about when he was young and realized he never asked anything about how I grew up. Of course I have shared things on my own but he has never asked.