18:41 - OP here, I see your point and I don't argue that. If you don't wear makeup and do a ponytail, then there's nothing to "fix". And that's FINE - I have nothing negative on that. I was just suprised at the responses where people laughed or almost took a sense of pride/Honor that they didn't bother and didn't care.

Anonymous wrote:Does your DH try to look nice for YOU?

agree

OP here. Not insecure about him. I am totally sure he won't cheat. I think it's more a challenge for ME - like I can bring home the bacon, fry it up, etc. I want things to look smooth (even if the day was from hell). Never let him see you sweat. Plus, he works hard, too, so why come home to a nightmare?

Anonymous wrote:OP here. But it literally takes 5 mins. I don't understand why people wouldn't. I am not talking about more than a quick brush of hair and teeth and removal of raccoon eyes. Maybe I am doing it more for ME than for him - I look in the mirror and think "wow, today kicked YOUR ass" and I feel better once I am more pulled together.

I think its great for you, especially if you're doing it for yourself and makes you feel good.

But you say you don't understand why others wouldn't... Well, I just don't spend a lot of time on my appearance. I don't wear makeup, and my hair is almost always in a ponytail, so nothing to brush. My husband hates makeup anyway, so this works for us. Different strokes.

Does your DH try to look nice for YOU?

you sound sort of insecure. are you afraid he will cheat?

BAHAHAHA

I usually brush my teeth and hair and get rid of the shine on my face.

OP here. But it literally takes 5 mins. I don't understand why people wouldn't. I am not talking about more than a quick brush of hair and teeth and removal of raccoon eyes. Maybe I am doing it more for ME than for him - I look in the mirror and think "wow, today kicked YOUR ass" and I feel better once I am more pulled together.

ugh

Does it stress you out to do those things?
Does it make you happy?

I think it's nice. It's not like you're putting on heels and a pearl necklace while you vacuum.

No, I don't do either.

I take a shower each morning, fix my hair, apply make up and brush my teeth. I go to bed after I wash my face and climb in one of DHs t-shirts. If he can see me for who I am (without all the effort at night and loves it) than he can deal with it during the day when I am raising the kids and cooking his meals.

It isn't that I don't want to be beautiful for my husband or keep a clean house. It's just that I feel like when we (as women/wives) do these things, it's as if we are putting our men above us. My husband is a person who I chose to spend my life with, yes. However, I didn't agree to always look my best and be a 24-7 maid.

Haha! Absolutely not.

um no I dont

I work P/T, have 2 kids under 6. I get home a few hours before he does, and feed the kids before he comes in. When my H texts to say he is on the way home, I do a quick "touch up" - brush my hair and teeth, remove the smudged makeup from under my eyes, etc. Takes about 5 mins. Not sure if H even notices but I feel like I should at least try to not look like a train wreck when he comes in. I remember my mom always had mascara smudges on her eyelids and under her eyes and it bugged ME. I also try and ensure the kitchen is clean and the house looks semi-decent.

Am I working too hard? Wondering if I need to let some things (mainly ME) go...