Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My first question is, why are you cleaning the toilets several times per week?

Because my husband spits gelatinous, glue-like lugies in them, pees all over the seats, and leaves skidmarks in them.

Why are you not already gone, troll?

Anonymous wrote:My first question is, why are you cleaning the toilets several times per week?

Because my husband spits gelatinous, glue-like lugies in them, pees all over the seats, and leaves skidmarks in them.

My first question is, why are you cleaning the toilets several times per week?

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Troll or not, I can completely relate. Dh always has to point out if he did anything in the house. He wants praise like a child, it's annoying as hell.

+1. My DH also does the "notice anything" bit; it makes me so incredibly angry.

You must be a harpy shrew too.

Anonymous wrote:Awesome. Might I suggest that you have a sit down with him and explain that you are seriously considering ending the marriage unless significant changes happen? Divorce is quite expensive and draining. Since you have a child, you owe your kid a try at therapy. If your dreamboat refuses to attend therapy or does not take it seriously, then you have your answer. You can then move on to the divorce attorney.

I've already threatened him with divorce. I've done the counseling route, but by myself, since he refuses to go.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Troll or not, I can completely relate. Dh always has to point out if he did anything in the house. He wants praise like a child, it's annoying as hell.

Usually when men are reduced to this it's because their wives are shew and harpy and they're desperately seeking approval of any sort.

I'm not a shrew and am not harpy. My husband, on the other hand, is very harpy. I'm very laid back.

Anonymous wrote:Troll or not, I can completely relate. Dh always has to point out if he did anything in the house. He wants praise like a child, it's annoying as hell.

+1. My DH also does the "notice anything" bit; it makes me so incredibly angry.

Anonymous wrote:Troll or not, I can completely relate. Dh always has to point out if he did anything in the house. He wants praise like a child, it's annoying as hell.

Usually when men are reduced to this it's because their wives are shew and harpy and they're desperately seeking approval of any sort.

Troll or not, I can completely relate. Dh always has to point out if he did anything in the house. He wants praise like a child, it's annoying as hell.

Awesome. Might I suggest that you have a sit down with him and explain that you are seriously considering ending the marriage unless significant changes happen? Divorce is quite expensive and draining. Since you have a child, you owe your kid a try at therapy. If your dreamboat refuses to attend therapy or does not take it seriously, then you have your answer. You can then move on to the divorce attorney.

Sorry about your situation OP. Sounds really exhausting. What about a cleaning service? If your husband isn't open to doing his share, then he should find the money in your family budget for a cleaning service and he should arrange for them to come, be home to supervise them, etc. If you all have to cut back on other things to make it work then it should be his hobbies that take a hit. Some things are worth contracting out.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Bullshit.

I wish it was.

You're trolling, honey.

Anonymous wrote:Bullshit.

I wish it was.

Bullshit.

I just need to vent.

This drives me crazy. My DH works part time (but makes more money than me). I wake up at 5:30am, leave the house by 7:30am, do daycare drop-off, and I get back home around 7pm. DH gets up around 11am, leaves for work around noon-ish, does daycare pick-up and gets home around 5pm. I do 99% of the chores, laundry, cooking, etc. We have had bad arguments wherein I have asked him to step up and do more, but it's been pretty useless. Before we got married, I had a serious talk with him about not wanting to get married unless we had a 50/50 partnership. We used to before we married and DS was born. He even used to make dinner. But after DS was born, he basically told me that he was the man of the house, and the housework was the wife's job. I stayed, thinking it could be worked out, and because of financial reasons and of course, having a child in the mix now. Occasionally, he will do some sort of chore, but then he expects me to thank him profusely and shower him with praise for it.

Case in point - he hasn't worked at all so far this week (but I have). I came home yesterday, and he's like, "notice anything?" He makes me walk around and look for something. Turns out he had cleaned the toilet during a brief break from sitting on the couch watching TV/surfing the internet all day long, and he wanted me to notice and praise him for it. Doesn't he realize how many times a WEEK *I* clean the toilets???? Do I ever get praise from him for doing the laundry, cooking, cleaning, keeping our finances, paying our bills, etc.???

I can't live like this anymore. I'm calling a divorce attorney.