Anonymous wrote:So you are planning on nagging your kid to get applications done that he is clearly not motivated to do? Will you also be in his dorm room nagging him to finish that paper that's due in the morning? Will you be there reminding him not to blow his budget on booze?



How about you begin to foster some sense of accountability and independence in your child (oh wait, the time to do that was 16 years ago) and let them figure their own shit out. Mommy and daddy won't be around to hold their hands forever.

Drunken thread-killer. Ugh.

Anonymous wrote:So you are planning on nagging your kid to get applications done that he is clearly not motivated to do? Will you also be in his dorm room nagging him to finish that paper that's due in the morning? Will you be there reminding him not to blow his budget on booze?



How about you begin to foster some sense of accountability and independence in your child (oh wait, the time to do that was 16 years ago) and let them figure their own shit out. Mommy and daddy won't be around to hold their hands forever.

YOU are a nag! OP, the PP doesn't have a a full picture view who your child is. Yes, s[he] is entitled to an opinion but it's full of self-righteous, overbearing opinion. Don't kowtow to the insult. Anonymity's how they get off their chest what they DIDN't do. Now, watch this creep come back with full blown discussion how inadequate everyone else is while their lil darlin' is the toast of the Ivy schools.

PP runs a pattern. Don't fall for it. I GUARANTEE she or he will be back to blast away while preaching their baseless opinion about your child. Parenting is tough work as we try and steer our kids. Flame away, PP. Your cheap words shouldn't impact anyone here because you don't pay one damn bill, provided not one piece of positive advice for OP's kid, didn't attend one teacher meeting, etc. You are just someone with a big ass mouth with weak ass attempts to demoralize OP.

And I give less than a shit about your inevitable attempts to demean me. I see your cheap style and sense of self-righteousness all over this forum. Don't let this self-overrated person's shoddy cheap shot get to you, OP.

So you are planning on nagging your kid to get applications done that he is clearly not motivated to do? Will you also be in his dorm room nagging him to finish that paper that's due in the morning? Will you be there reminding him not to blow his budget on booze?



How about you begin to foster some sense of accountability and independence in your child (oh wait, the time to do that was 16 years ago) and let them figure their own shit out. Mommy and daddy won't be around to hold their hands forever.

Because kids are less prejudiced and see the bigger picture.

Southern schools: less competitive admissions, good football, great towns, lower costs, more scholarship money, and better weather, better weather, better weather.

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Anonymous wrote:DD was accepted early to what I thought was her safety school (Alabama). But the accepted kids communicate (via fb maybe) and DD really likes the girls she messaging with. The group is excited about 'Bama, picking suitemates and discussing sororities. I think she may forego finishing up her apps as planned. I'm disappointed because I think there are other schools that she could get into that are better fits for her. But it's her life at this point. Roll Tide!

So many kids from this area are going south. It has become a real trend. I am glad she is already into a school she loves. Appreciate that for what it is worth!

I've heard and seen this - but WHY?

Anonymous wrote:In four years we will be going through the college app process but I'm wondering...what about just letting the chips fall where they may? If the child is not motivated to complete the applications, their options will be narrowed to those that match their motivation level? If the child misses the deadline and pays the price, maybe it's a valuable lesson learned to have to wait a year for another chance?

Great idea -- for your kid.

Anonymous wrote:DD was accepted early to what I thought was her safety school (Alabama). But the accepted kids communicate (via fb maybe) and DD really likes the girls she messaging with. The group is excited about 'Bama, picking suitemates and discussing sororities. I think she may forego finishing up her apps as planned. I'm disappointed because I think there are other schools that she could get into that are better fits for her. But it's her life at this point. Roll Tide!

So many kids from this area are going south. It has become a real trend. I am glad she is already into a school she loves. Appreciate that for what it is worth!

DD was accepted early to what I thought was her safety school (Alabama). But the accepted kids communicate (via fb maybe) and DD really likes the girls she messaging with. The group is excited about 'Bama, picking suitemates and discussing sororities. I think she may forego finishing up her apps as planned. I'm disappointed because I think there are other schools that she could get into that are better fits for her. But it's her life at this point. Roll Tide!

Anonymous wrote:In four years we will be going through the college app process but I'm wondering...what about just letting the chips fall where they may? If the child is not motivated to complete the applications, their options will be narrowed to those that match their motivation level? If the child misses the deadline and pays the price, maybe it's a valuable lesson learned to have to wait a year for another chance?

Go for it. It's not the approach we've taken but might work for your kid.

In four years we will be going through the college app process but I'm wondering...what about just letting the chips fall where they may? If the child is not motivated to complete the applications, their options will be narrowed to those that match their motivation level? If the child misses the deadline and pays the price, maybe it's a valuable lesson learned to have to wait a year for another chance?

I'm with you. It's been a long haul getting these done. Hoping DC gets one in tonight. The last is a real reach so if it doesn't get done I won't sweat it.

Anonymous wrote:I'm so sorry op! My dd has another year to go before my nagging starts (which I know will happen). I'm not so concerned with her as I am for her siblings coming a couple of years later- the whole feet to the fire analogy sounds especially apt. I just started reading 'Crazy U' which deals with admissions from the parent prospective. Funny in a sort of mirthless 'ha' way, but it might be nice reading right now.

'Crazy U' is a hilarious book! Have you gotten to the part about the "kitchen people," specifically the woman who can't contain herself until she can announce her daughter's stellar SAT scores? I almost died laughing.

I'm so sorry op! My dd has another year to go before my nagging starts (which I know will happen). I'm not so concerned with her as I am for her siblings coming a couple of years later- the whole feet to the fire analogy sounds especially apt. I just started reading 'Crazy U' which deals with admissions from the parent prospective. Funny in a sort of mirthless 'ha' way, but it might be nice reading right now.

DC still has a bunch of essays to write and I feel like I have to hold his feet to the fire to get him to write them. Tomorrow is going to be a day of nagging and so is the 1st. Can't wait until this is over.