Anonymous
Post 12/28/2013 18:43     Subject: Re:Trying hard not to be "that crazy mom"
OP... LET IT GO. It's just a few times a year. I just had my 87 year old mother leave after a week long visit and would give anything if she were still in a position to help with the kids, cook for us, and allow date nights. Believe me, soon enough, this won't be an issue for you because she may really be incapable of helping at all.
Anonymous
Post 12/28/2013 18:35     Subject: Trying hard not to be "that crazy mom"
Had similar issues on our visit to the in laws. I just let some of it go without comment (constant tv, a diet of sugar and carbs) and only say something if it's non negotiable. For example, whenever I asked our 2 year old to clean up, MIL would jump up and say "I'll do it!" Since we're really working on reinforcing cleaning up toys, I asked her not to do that. But I let it go (and vented privately) about how she then spent the rest of our visit saying "mommy says you have to clean up" as if I'm a mean monster for enforcing some basic rules.

Anonymous
Post 12/28/2013 18:19     Subject: Trying hard not to be "that crazy mom"
Anonymous wrote:My parents are visiting and are being super helpful, letting DH and I go on date nights, cooking for us, etc. I'm trying to hold my tongue with my mom because she doesn't take care of DSs like I would. She feeds them more junk than I do, and, as she said, she's 72 and needs to turn on the tv when she takes care of the kids sometimes. I feel myself getting annoyed by this stuff, but they only come a couple times a year and I don't want to make a big deal. But I am annoyed. And I need to vent somewhere so dcum is it, even though I know you guys will probably crucify me.


You are an ungrateful bitch. Why are you allowing your 72-yr old mother to eait on your lazy and ungrateful ass.
Anonymous
Post 12/28/2013 17:53     Subject: Trying hard not to be "that crazy mom"
Anonymous wrote:My parents are visiting and are being super helpful, letting DH and I go on date nights, cooking for us, etc. I'm trying to hold my tongue with my mom because she doesn't take care of DSs like I would. She feeds them more junk than I do, and, as she said, she's 72 and needs to turn on the tv when she takes care of the kids sometimes. I feel myself getting annoyed by this stuff, but they only come a couple times a year and I don't want to make a big deal. But I am annoyed. And I need to vent somewhere so dcum is it, even though I know you guys will probably crucify me.


Which makes total sense-- she is not the parent, you are! I'd totally let it go for a couple times a year.
Anonymous
Post 12/28/2013 17:23     Subject: Re:Trying hard not to be "that crazy mom"
I have the opposite problem - judgmental comments by my mom about my kid watching tv and what he eats. I think family visits are just generally kind of tough.
Anonymous
Post 12/28/2013 17:22     Subject: Re:Trying hard not to be "that crazy mom"
Grandparents are there to be the fun.
Anonymous
Post 12/28/2013 17:21     Subject: Trying hard not to be "that crazy mom"
Anonymous wrote:Your children are in safe and loving hands and they are making memories that they will always carry with them. Don't spoil that, especially if it only happens a few times a year.


+1
Anonymous
Post 12/28/2013 17:19     Subject: Trying hard not to be "that crazy mom"
Let it go.. it's a treat for the kids... I honestly think having this kind of time helps the kids to better follow the rules when the grandparents are not around.
Anonymous
Post 12/28/2013 17:08     Subject: Trying hard not to be "that crazy mom"
There's just something about having enough alpha-female in the house. Maybe you two can laugh about it. Ask her how it was between her and her mother, or her and her mother-in-law, or grandma, or between sisters. Use this as a time to let her talk about herself. Then go talk a walk.
Anonymous
Post 12/28/2013 17:07     Subject: Trying hard not to be "that crazy mom"
Anonymous wrote:My parents are visiting and are being super helpful, letting DH and I go on date nights, cooking for us, etc. I'm trying to hold my tongue with my mom because she doesn't take care of DSs like I would. She feeds them more junk than I do, and, as she said, she's 72 and needs to turn on the tv when she takes care of the kids sometimes. I feel myself getting annoyed by this stuff, but they only come a couple times a year and I don't want to make a big deal. But I am annoyed. And I need to vent somewhere so dcum is it, even though I know you guys will probably crucify me.
Hang in there, OP! Sounds like you have the right attitude.
Anonymous
Post 12/28/2013 17:06     Subject: Re:Trying hard not to be "that crazy mom"
I would let the TV issue go but try and keep the same food habits you normally keep.
We are strict with DD's diet and I get annoyed when Grandpa wants to give her junk. She sees him about once a week.
Anonymous
Post 12/28/2013 17:03     Subject: Trying hard not to be "that crazy mom"
Your children are in safe and loving hands and they are making memories that they will always carry with them. Don't spoil that, especially if it only happens a few times a year.
Anonymous
Post 12/28/2013 17:01     Subject: Re:Trying hard not to be "that crazy mom"
You have the right attitude.

My parents are the same way with the kids. They are always willing to help out and love the heck out of my kids. But, there is a lot more movie watching and junk food eating than they get at home. I live with it. It isn't going to harm my children in the longrun, and a good relationship b/w their parents and grandparents is a great benefit to them.
Anonymous
Post 12/28/2013 17:01     Subject: Trying hard not to be "that crazy mom"
I think you just need to let it go for a few weeks a year. It won't hurt if they watch a bit more TV or eat a bit more junk food if the rest of the year you have it your way.
Anonymous
Post 12/28/2013 16:59     Subject: Trying hard not to be "that crazy mom"
My parents are visiting and are being super helpful, letting DH and I go on date nights, cooking for us, etc. I'm trying to hold my tongue with my mom because she doesn't take care of DSs like I would. She feeds them more junk than I do, and, as she said, she's 72 and needs to turn on the tv when she takes care of the kids sometimes. I feel myself getting annoyed by this stuff, but they only come a couple times a year and I don't want to make a big deal. But I am annoyed. And I need to vent somewhere so dcum is it, even though I know you guys will probably crucify me.