Anonymous
12/22/2013 10:58
Subject: BF's platonic love for female friends
Woman here. My husband doesn't have these types of friendships. He had female friends in college. He doesn't go out of his way to see or talk to them now but they'll chat if they run into each other. I know my husband and he doesn't bother with female friends now so if he suddenly had a close woman friend I'd be suspicious. But that's because it's not his style to be super close to women in friendships.
Anonymous
12/22/2013 10:24
Subject: BF's platonic love for female friends
Something men have these friendships and some don't.
I pretty much have learned that I cant deal with dating someone who has extremely close "platonic" friendships with attractive women his age. Work buddies who go out to lunch sometimes, fine. But super close, no.
So I steer clear of these guys. Twice I have been uneasy about close female "friends" and both times it turned out I was right to be.
Some men who have these close friendships are flirty types who crave opposite sex attention. I just don't like that personality type.
I pretty much have learned that I cant deal with dating someone who has extremely close "platonic" friendships with attractive women his age. Work buddies who go out to lunch sometimes, fine. But super close, no.
So I steer clear of these guys. Twice I have been uneasy about close female "friends" and both times it turned out I was right to be.
Some men who have these close friendships are flirty types who crave opposite sex attention. I just don't like that personality type.
Anonymous
12/22/2013 10:21
Subject: BF's platonic love for female friends
Anonymous wrote:My best friends wife ruined our friendship because of her jealousy now I am relegated to a mere Facebook friend. We haven't even received acknowledgement of the fact that we had a baby this year. So sad. I really liked her initially but now I hate that bitch. I miss my friend, he was awesome.
Make some female friends
Anonymous
12/22/2013 10:03
Subject: BF's platonic love for female friends
My GF and I have strong, platonic feelings for some of our opposite-sex friends. We let off steam by getting together with some every couple of months or so for pillow fights in bathing suits. It's a stress reliever without hanky panky.
Anonymous
12/22/2013 08:39
Subject: BF's platonic love for female friends
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I dunno. I felt uneasy about one or two of my ex BF's female friends. Then 2 months after we broke up he visited one of his friends in another country. Um yeah. Suspicion justified.
Hilarious - you dump him, and he starts something AFTER you leave and you use that to justify your suspicions of him?
I had a girlfriend like you once - accused me of having emotional affairs with friends - basically dumped me for this and then immediately took back up with her "friend" who was an ex of hers. They're having a baby now.
Guilty minds are suspicious minds.
NP. It doesn't matter that it was after. I assume the BF of the first pp you quoted probably told her he had no attraction to the friend and he would never be interested in a girl like that, yada yada yada.
My ex-BF had one of those friends. He assured me they were just friends and she wasn't his type. They were in grad school together (we were long distance at this point) and they would study together a lot. We broke up eventually. They are now married.
Anonymous
12/22/2013 08:25
Subject: BF's platonic love for female friends
Anonymous wrote:I dunno. I felt uneasy about one or two of my ex BF's female friends. Then 2 months after we broke up he visited one of his friends in another country. Um yeah. Suspicion justified.
Hilarious - you dump him, and he starts something AFTER you leave and you use that to justify your suspicions of him?
I had a girlfriend like you once - accused me of having emotional affairs with friends - basically dumped me for this and then immediately took back up with her "friend" who was an ex of hers. They're having a baby now.
Guilty minds are suspicious minds.
Anonymous
12/22/2013 08:21
Subject: BF's platonic love for female friends
Anonymous wrote:Anyone else want to report on how their BF/DH relates to his female friends?
Mine is SUPER LOYAL to me and honorable, so I trust him and I'm generally easy-going, but sometimes I wonder at the nature of platonic love. Because my BF is an attractive, desirable man with a lot of female friends who are also attractive and desirable - and they are good women and have no intention of crossing the line with him, I know that. My BF feels a pretty intense platonic/friendship love for some of them.
Now, I feel this sometimes for a couple of my male friends, so I don't mind that he feels it for his female friends. I just wonder if this is common, or if it leads to problems, or just how it gets separated from lust/the possibility of romantic feelings down the line, and how many men have those kind of close, warm, deeply affectionate friendships with attractive female friends.
No, it's not common.
Anonymous
12/22/2013 08:20
Subject: BF's platonic love for female friends
Anonymous wrote:My best friends wife ruined our friendship because of her jealousy now I am relegated to a mere Facebook friend. We haven't even received acknowledgement of the fact that we had a baby this year. So sad. I really liked her initially but now I hate that bitch. I miss my friend, he was awesome.
Grow up.
Anonymous
12/22/2013 08:07
Subject: BF's platonic love for female friends
My best friends wife ruined our friendship because of her jealousy now I am relegated to a mere Facebook friend. We haven't even received acknowledgement of the fact that we had a baby this year. So sad. I really liked her initially but now I hate that bitch. I miss my friend, he was awesome.
Anonymous
12/22/2013 07:59
Subject: BF's platonic love for female friends
I dunno. I felt uneasy about one or two of my ex BF's female friends. Then 2 months after we broke up he visited one of his friends in another country. Um yeah. Suspicion justified.
Anonymous
12/22/2013 07:38
Subject: BF's platonic love for female friends
This sounds like your insecurity, not an issue between him and his friends. If he wanted to be with them, he would be dating them. He's dating you because that's what he wants.
Tread lightly. If someone tried to tell me to spend less time with my attractive friends, I'd show them the door.
Tread lightly. If someone tried to tell me to spend less time with my attractive friends, I'd show them the door.
Anonymous
12/22/2013 07:28
Subject: BF's platonic love for female friends
I have a very close male friend that I have known since elementary school. His wife hates me even though we are both married and I have kids.
If it bothers you, you need to address it. However, you need to be prepared for him to either say that he is willing to give up his friendship or he is not and you need to decide what you will do with that information.
If it bothers you, you need to address it. However, you need to be prepared for him to either say that he is willing to give up his friendship or he is not and you need to decide what you will do with that information.
Anonymous
12/22/2013 07:22
Subject: BF's platonic love for female friends
Sounds like the BF is keeping his options open.
Anonymous
12/22/2013 06:52
Subject: BF's platonic love for female friends
I think you need to admit you don't like this. There is way too much equivocating in your post. Either you can deal with the situation or you can't. Six months from now you'll be hacking his emails.
Anonymous
12/22/2013 05:27
Subject: BF's platonic love for female friends
Anyone else want to report on how their BF/DH relates to his female friends?
Mine is SUPER LOYAL to me and honorable, so I trust him and I'm generally easy-going, but sometimes I wonder at the nature of platonic love. Because my BF is an attractive, desirable man with a lot of female friends who are also attractive and desirable - and they are good women and have no intention of crossing the line with him, I know that. My BF feels a pretty intense platonic/friendship love for some of them.
Now, I feel this sometimes for a couple of my male friends, so I don't mind that he feels it for his female friends. I just wonder if this is common, or if it leads to problems, or just how it gets separated from lust/the possibility of romantic feelings down the line, and how many men have those kind of close, warm, deeply affectionate friendships with attractive female friends.
Mine is SUPER LOYAL to me and honorable, so I trust him and I'm generally easy-going, but sometimes I wonder at the nature of platonic love. Because my BF is an attractive, desirable man with a lot of female friends who are also attractive and desirable - and they are good women and have no intention of crossing the line with him, I know that. My BF feels a pretty intense platonic/friendship love for some of them.
Now, I feel this sometimes for a couple of my male friends, so I don't mind that he feels it for his female friends. I just wonder if this is common, or if it leads to problems, or just how it gets separated from lust/the possibility of romantic feelings down the line, and how many men have those kind of close, warm, deeply affectionate friendships with attractive female friends.