OP think you are justified. It would hurt me too, but then again I know I am a sensitive person to these kinds of things and if you are too, then she should know that and know a call would have been preferred.

Oops meant "friends do things"

I think a "good friend' or at least what I consider a good friend should make the effort to make a call. It has nothing to do with birthdays being for kids as someone said but more about sending a genuine message of birthday cheer to someone you care about and it cannot possibly translate well through a text message. To me, sending a text just says "I am too busy to call you but throwing a crumb your way" to do the right thing.

Let me just say that I personally would not wish anyone a Happy Birthday via text message or email. I find it impersonal and almost like an afterthought. I am 45 and hardly consider myself old fashioned but like to do the right thing and texting such a message most certainly is not.

That said, you likely will not change the way your friends dose things so my recommendation is to not personalize it.

OP, have you considered that maybe something was going on with her that day? Maybe she's dealing with things you're not aware of yet. Maybe she had a crazy day and knew she wouldn't be able to call so she sent a text. Be a good enough friend to be understanding of her. And be thankful that you have a friend that you value so much.

I think calling it wrong and holding it against her is too much. It's okay to be disappointed and wish for more, but saying it's "wrong" somehow is too judgmental.

Overly sensitive no question

Hardly rude if that's your most common method of communicating.

Rude, yes but common absolutely. I don't like it either but its more common than you might think.

I am going to disagree. For a good friend, you pick up the phone and offer a sincere birthday greeting. Call me old fashioned but I taught an etiquette class for middle school students at a private school in Philadelphia and this was our core mission- to be sure that modern technology does not replace common polite gestures and physical contact. I don't it was polite, however I doubt she did it to hurt you.

The problem is that people today as a society, often resort to the quick easy method of doing things. Texting and emailing being two of the big ones. Sadly the personal touches are lost in translation and it just appears as another generic message. I do agree that certain sentiments should not be expressed via text and/or email. This being one. Is telling her how you feel an option? If not let it go, and realize you cannot change the way people think and react to how things are done today. Just do what is right for you.

Too sensitive. How is she supposed to know about YOUR arbitrary rule regarding phone calls vs texting? At least she remembered-I usually don't.

Birthdays are for kids. And you can just text her for her birthday or send a card. She'll be OK with that. Not everyone thinks grownup birthdays are a big deal.

Oh dear. You are too sensitive. It is only a birthday. There isn't a rule on phone calls only for birthdays-- but if that is YOUR (what was with the random capitalized words?) rule then you need to let her know.

Sign of the times. When her birthday comes, text her.

Over sensitive. Be happy she remembered and thought of you. There could be a million reasons why she chose to do so.

Have a very good friend (considered to be one of my four closest friends). We have known each other for about 15 years and have had a lot of fun times...shes a great person, but I between the two of us am the more sensitive one whereas she is the one where everything "rolls off her back". She has a thick skin in other words.
However putting personalities aside, to me good manners are good manners. PERIOD. My birthday was on Thursday, my family and good friends all called to wish me a happy birthday, two even sent flowers. This one friend TEXTED me a birthday greeting and that is it! Not a phone call, not even a phone message. To say my feelings are hurt is an understatement. I replied a "thank you" to be courteous but given my very short reply she should have realized that was wrong. She is older than me so trust me she knows better, besides this is someone who prides herself on being proper and refined, with good manners. I am hurt and perplexed. To me there are simply certain things that are simply not acceptable via text message. Wishing a GOOD FRIEND a happy birthday is one of the many. Maybe a casual acquaintance but really what does it say? That she doesn't have 2 minutes to pick up the darn phone and say Happy Birthday?

Signed, really hurt